Yes fastest solution is to get a boyfriend and have loads of fun times with him and pour all your negativity to someone confidential who will help you learn skills to cheer yourself up, listen to you and say nice things back that make you feel good. Tbh journaling does the job, but I like to tell people so I eventually found someone willing to receive details of my reactions to stuff

Share in a general way with bf that you feel sad or angry etc, let him SUCCESSFULLY comfort you even if he hasn't cos you have else where you can process your gunk then let him distract you with fun times.

I personally find therapists extremely hard to stick around!!! Nhs therapist HAVE TO see me for a time ... Lol x but the private ones, if they don't feel successful in cheering you up and that you might be going downhill in reaction to treatment they gone!!!

I've gone from two sessions to ten to about six months now with private therapists. So proud!!!

Someone said to me once that sometimes you have to fix the therapist before they fix you!!!

Why talk about upsetting stuff in therapy, try to make your therapist laugh and happy see if they make you laugh and happy repeat... See if a feeling of safety trust and love and care come. Once you have a bond then see if they will help you with upsetting stuff

But only do upset stuff for first fifteen mins of session then spend rest of session being cheered up and having fun

God I'm clueless... Why aren't there any professional therapists capable of being lovely and fixing you and stocking with people?

Incompetence probably

I want you! Would love to be wanted by you, but I'm probably not your type or good enough

If your turning down options...

Then make yourself into something that dream person wants

You are wanted! You just have to believe it

I get that. In today's crazy world, I think that people sometimes forget to just Connect with each other.

How about hiding the box cutters (or send them over here...my teens don't seem to understand that it's possible to flatten a box for recycling), and giving your mom a hug.

No, it won't "solve" anything, but it might just feel good for a minute. And sometimes that's enough.

Big hugs, Patti

Thank you for sharing. Depression is something that is lived with and learning about yourself can help with that. Wanting instant help is a common want, but real help often takes time. It is enduring and winning everyday that you fight on. Cutting is actually an addiction. Addictions need help, because by definition it is when we might want to stop but can't. No shame in getting help, just remember that real help can take time. You are worth that time and effort. You aren't in this alone. If ever you need to vent, you can message me. I can't offer a quick fix, but I can listen (read). You are in my prayers and God Bless. I hope this was of any help.

Sorry you're having such a hard time. I agree about therapists. They are highly overrated. I found the best thing for me and my recovery is knowing myself, my triggers, etc. and having coping mechanisms. I have learned that I and only I have the ability to get well - by my decisions and choices. I learned the hard way not to depend on others to make me feel better about myself - not a parent, not a boyfriend or girlfriend, no one. I have read so many self help books over the past 10 years. And I have learned something from each one. If you truly want to recover and be the person of your dreams, make today the first day of the rest of your life. Recovery is a life long process. Have I arrived? No. But, am I better than I was a year ago, 5 years ago, 10 years ago. Definitely! If you truly want to recover, read the book The Broken Way by Ann VosKamp (who found healing from cutting). And Take Your Life Back by Dr. David Stoop. Saying a prayer for you.