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Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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milly17 07/02/2011

Ok so we were all supposed to be going to the in laws for a barbecue and my daughter was a few minutes behind and my partner starts getting annoyed with her and he then eff's at me and says he's going on his own and buggers off. Daughter then has a go at me saying i always break my promises and i'm like WTF have i done apart from give you a loving home and taken you everywhere you wanted to go and told you i love you everyday. So i snap, yes i really snap and to cut a long story short i have sent her to live with my parents and am telling the partner when he gets home that i want him out by morning. This has been a long time coming and i have put up with so much crap from them both.....why do i feel such a bitch though when all i have ever done is given them all i have:/ i just feel like what's the point, there has to be something better than this:'(...rant over, thanks for listeningxx

deleted_user 07/02/2011

((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))) Honey, I am sorry they are disrespecting you so badly. I don't blame you at all for what you did. The better they have it, the more they want. So sad, but very typical of youth today. x

Summerwind81 07/02/2011

Aw damn :( wish I had advice, but just wanted to say I'm sorry you're hurting. Hope this can somehow work itself out well for everybody. Hugs.

milly17 07/02/2011

Can i just say thank you so much for your replies, i love you guys and without you i dont know where i would be. I just feel so wretched and selfish about this and just want to tell my girl how much i love her but i cant right know if that makes sense. xx

beachside 07/02/2011

You make a lot of sense milly......hugs x

beachside 07/02/2011

I am sorry you are going through this.....more hugs x

milly17 07/02/2011

Thanks Beachy....it was just a rant really, just to get things out of my head as it is kinda full right nowxx

WallyBear 07/02/2011

Hi milly,

I'm so sorry that you have all this going on.

We can only take so much.........Even from our loved ones.

You have every right to take care of yourself

deleted_user 07/02/2011

Maybe your partner and my ex should hook up they sound like they have a lot in common!
You have tons of strength...I read it in your words! You think you are a bitch cuz you take a stand on whats right? I think not more like a. inspiration to those of us here who are scared!

milly17 07/02/2011

I think you could be right Rambo, those two sound like the perfect couple....never fecking grateful ;) Thanks for your kind words and i just hope i am strong cos i got a feeling im gonna need to be in the next few daysxx you take care too mate xx

MeggieLizzie 07/02/2011

You didn't deserve that. I'm really sorry. Sometimes, we teenagers can be disrespectful to our parents, especially when we get upset. Sometimes, we teenagers say things that aren't true. I make a big effort to try and not do that to my mom, but I sometimes end up doing that anyway. Once I calm down, I try to apologize to my mom, and that's what you deserve from her: a good apology and a promise that she won't disrespect you like that again. Like my mom, you sound like a good parent. Please know that you don't deserve it.

Can you do something to distract yourself and calm your nerves? Can you take a hot bath, get a pedicure, etc. I'm sure you deserve it.

Take care, and hugs.

MeggieLizzie 07/02/2011

Is she a teenager? I don't know why I assumed she was a teenager.

milly17 07/02/2011

I know meggie, you are right of course and i can remember being a teenager myself and how i even went through a stage where i honeslty thought my parents hated me and later in life obviously realised it was because they loved me so much. She broke my heart this morning and i think this the one and only time that i have ever snapped as normally i try to put myself in her shoes and talk to her even if its for hours on end and then we always end up having a hug and telling each other we love each other up to the sky and back lol. Thats what makes it so bad as i just got angry. You sound like a very sensible teenager and your lovely mum should be proudxx

milly17 07/02/2011

Nearly fifteen Meggie but quite mature intelligent and loving most of the time. I know its just hormones but i really did get upset by her hurtful words todayxx

MeggieLizzie 07/02/2011

You didn't deserve her hurtful words. I hope you'll feel better soon.

Okay, I always seem to be good with the psychology behind people's actions, and I always seem to be coming up with psychological theories. Psychologically, I think what happened with your daughter is that she felt insecure when your partner started telling you he was upset with her, so she tried to shift the blame away from herself to you by saying all those mean things to you. Does this seem like a probable cause to you? If I'm right about this, I don't think she meant what she had said given the circumstances and was just being defensive of herself. Do you believe this is possible, and if you do believe that she didn't mean it does that make you feel a little better?

I'm always coming up with my theories about people and actions.

Whether you believe my theory or not, you know that you are a good parent who didn't deserve that, and I hope that fact makes you feel a little better about this situation.

ScaredandScarred 07/02/2011

**hugs milly** I commented on your journal. I am glad to see you standing up for yourself, and I think that doing something nice for you right now is a good idea, be it painting your nails or having ice cream and watching your fav movie, just something for you!

xxx

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