Since you were crying and mourning the loss of your birdie friend, I do not find that cold or numb at all. Grief will make you numb for a while. Everyone deals with it differently. Don't beat yourself up, honey.

I'm sorry about your bird. Animals make our lives more special and when they leave us, they do leave a hole in us.

if u can feel the pain ur heart is not dying in fact its a reminder of u being very alive. Love is a beautiful emotion even more valued when given to animals and birds.
I think you would know what unconditional love is now... so be happy for the experience of being loved unconditionally.

I'm So Very Sorry For The Loss Of Your Friend Sweetheart.
I Understand Your Pain.
Our Pets Quickly And Easily Take Over Our Hearts.

Sending You ((((((HUGS)))))) And Love

You have a stake in who you become, despite and in spite of your upbringing and the events in your life. Your feathered friend would want you to persevere and to be who you want to be.

I have also been through a lot and am a sensitive person. Right now I am mostly numb and feel cold but I do not let these feelings dictate my behaviors. I hope once I have healed my feelings will come back.

I am very sorry for your loss. You feel numb right now just because you spent a lot of time crying. Your feelings will return. God knows your heart and the fact that you call upon Him for help with it is a good sign you will not turn out numb and cold. Keep God in your heart. Turn to Him who will heal your heart. As for the people who say "get over it", don't give them the time of day. They have things going on in their lives and try to project onto you how they are feeling themselves. Pray for them.
I will pray for you sweetie, that God will wrap His loving arms around you at this time. (((hugs)))
deb

I have been cold and numb all my life. It's what helped my to survive.
I hope your prayers are answered soon.

Thank you for all the replies. We buried her under a tree. I know she is flying in heaven with angels.

Honey, just because your parents were cold and unfeeling, doesn't mean you are going to be that way as well. My mother is an abusive, selfish, snob, and I could go on but you know what I'm talking about. I vowed as a young girl to never ever turn out like her, and I haven't. And I don't think you have turned out like either of your parents either. No-one can love a pet that much, feel that much, and not be a good person. I remember when I first moved to this hell hole where I live now and while taking my grand children out for pizza, my Monty dug under the fence, ran down the hill into a very busy road, and was hit by a Suburban. I was devastated. I returned about 2 or 3 minutes after he was hit. He was a Chihuahua, not more than 10 pounds. I took him up the driveway and held him for at least 3 hours, and wouldn't put him down, even though I knew he was gone. His eyes were wide open staring at me and I bawled for hours. To this day, and it's been approximately 7 years, that I don't think about my little guy every day. Feel numb, cry, keep your baby in your thoughts all the time, and NEVER let someone tell you to get over it! Those words just disgust me, especially when someone is grieving. Don't stop posting because so many of us have been through what you have, understand, and will support you for as long as you need us. Many hugs Gramybear

I'm so sorry for your loss. She was a part of your life for a long time. It is more than reasonable to feel loss and grieve. You don't sound cold to me. I know it is so painful losing a pet. It is one of the most painful things I've experienced. I have no children and my cat was my family. It was very difficult when I lost him. Again, my heart truly understands your pain. Please know you are not alone.

My heart goes out to you about losing a soul mate. held my cat of 20 years as he passed. But you will be okay after a time and you will learn to remember fondly the wonderful times. Time will heal the pain!
BB

If you are cold and unfeeling you wouldn't be on this site! I know your pain.
BB

Hi gordos 4
I have a book with lots of quotes and other things to help someone get through a loss. I found this one that I hope helps you in some small way. Hugs GB

You made me laugh:
I remember those times when you caused me to laugh. Because of your playfulness and how you coaxed me into having fun, you added humorous dimensions to my life.
Your ability to turn everyday objects into toys and to get me to play with you reminded me that having fun is essential to living a joyful life.
>At which time during the day, when I tend to feel especially tense, could I remember what you taught me about play and keeping my sense of humor?

Im new to this dont know what to say besides that I know how you feel and you are not alone. Ive been told to get over alot of things... people dont understand. *hugs*

my profile pic is of my best friend in the world he was 13 yrs when he died at the vets office. I had dropped him off the day before because he wasn't acting like he felt good. Next morning I called to see how he was and they said he had passed during the nite. I was destroyed mentally for days but can think fondly about him now.
BB

I understand how you feel. I lost my quaker parrot about 5 years ago. It was one of the most devastating things that had ever happened to me. I am still grieving for him. The people telling you to "get over it" are just ignorant, insensitive, and just stupid. Even though it's difficult, you will get through this. What helped me is that I adopted a sweet green cheek conure after I lost my quaker parrot; he supported me throughout that difficult time. Even though parrots can't be replaced, it sure helps to get another. Do you have any other pets that can support you through this difficult time? Hugs