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whatswrong19 12/24/2015

My job requires patience and caring but also a very strong necessity to set boundaries that must be followed for the safety of children. This need to set boundaries can send me into a nasty state where I become angry and almost like a damned bully who is not to be questioned. I hate myself when I allow myself to get angry and get bossy and sarcastic and nasty with people who test my patience. And lately it does not take me very long to get there. I know I have to set clear boundaries that must be followed but I want to do it with out anger and aggression.

enigmaticloner 12/24/2015

I feel the same, I'm tired of being angry all the time. I was a bit angry as a child, but now it just seems to be worse. Whether it's because of all the physical pain or the emotional pain or a combination of both I don't know. It's starting to really scare me though, at times I fear what I might do if I get too angry and I'm not able to become calmed down.

whatswrong19 12/24/2015

I am also afraid of my own temper. Because I do what I do because I truly want to help families. But I feel like I'm destroying my ability to form a trustful relationship needed to make any positive difference in their lives .

Heidiclark 12/24/2015

There's an anger management group here at DS which might help. I would also recommend therapy. Are you taking meds.? It took me a long time to realize that several of the antidepressants I was taking were causing me anger and were also making the depression worse.
Good luck.

sixtyplus 12/24/2015

Menopause maybe? Are you taking something for estrogen replacement? Do you think you should be?

whatswrong19 12/25/2015

Thanks for the replies. You guys are such a good group of people. I will look at the anger management group. This could have something to do with menopause as I am 43.

sixtyplus 12/25/2015

FYI whatswrong, estrogen replacement therapy did nothing for me emotionally, I sailed through that time in life 30 years ago with a glass of v8 juice every day and a 3 musketeers bar every other day.

freedom15g 12/25/2015

anger is not inherent in aging it is more of a temperament or ptsd maybe but i could not take hormones due to breast cancer and i am still angry i lost some huge things in this chapter

whatswrong19 12/25/2015

My religion teaches me that anger is always wrong. I believe that. That's not to say we allow others to do wrong if it is in our power to stop them. But anger is the most destructive emotion we experience. I want no part of it yet it seeps in far more than I like

sixtyplus 12/25/2015

And it is wrong.. contrary to the Spirit. Galatians Chapter 5.

koolman 12/26/2015

There may be no way to do this. Anger and aggression are the only things that get some people's attention.

If you have people you can out with AFTER work, who you can be soft and gentle with, this may help you compartmentalize your behavior DURING work to just the job without it spilling over into your personal life.

koolman 12/26/2015

"HANG out with" I meant.

Heidiclark 12/27/2015

Is it happening only at work? Is it when certain people you deal with in your job go too far? OR is the anger something you have to deal with i a wide variety of settings? These questions are what a therapist can explore with you. He or she can teach you anger management technques. Believe that you can overcome this because you can and you will. I was an angry person for a long time but not any longer. If I can overcome it you can too.

whatswrong19 12/30/2015

Thanks. I've got to get in therapy. I'll have to be careful though due to the position I work in.

ThePepperMan 12/30/2015

Therapists are required to keep things confidential, so you have that going for you.

Perhaps select a therapist who is nothing to do with your department?

And go slow on opening up about your anger?

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