Meko, only you can decide what is right for you. But if your BF is as emotionally draining as you say then perhaps he needs a wake up call. Like being kicked out. There are shelters taht he can go to. And maybe he needs that incentive to get his act together
Obviously it is affecting you a lot
Please talk to someone, a therapist or someone
I hope you have some steadier days to come
xx

You will know when the time is right. You will wake up one day, and the house won't matter and the stuff won't matter, you will just know it is time. You're not a failure, you're just not there yet.

Good luck, remember you ARE worth being loved, the right way.

"...I was doing well earlier today and was making progress on some office stuff and organizing..."

That's not a failure.

"I want so badly to study and have goals....."

That's not a failure.

"I am so tired of supporting him...."

Again, not a failure.

But, sometimes it helps to list actions that make your goals happen. Lists like this can be made/revised often as you move towards your goal. They can be lists of little goals or large goals. The lists can consist of little actions are big actions. Then, you just follow the list in chronological order. Each action leads to another. Concentrate on that list, the actions, and let go of the emotions for awhile.

This man is not your responsibility, and it is delusional (for lack of a better word) for him to think he is. It sounds like you are having a hard time just taking care of yourself. If you can't take care of you, than you can't take care of him. He really needs to do that for himself. Emotionally? Well, maybe you need the companionship. But, if it is hindering on the rest of your life or WELLBEING, than you really need to take care of those emotions in other ways. That is difficult, I know.

Make those lists of what you need to do to get on your feet. If you have a hard time doing that, maybe a counselor can help you.

Don't give up. You have the will to try and succeed. You just need practice and you'll get there.

My first GF was an emotional train wreck and in turn making me worse. The last weekend we spent together we got in a huge fight and she started grabbing books(hardcover) off the bookshelf and throwing them at me. One hit my leg and left a good gash bleeding all down my leg. That was a very bad decision on her behalf. She needed me to help pay the rent and bills as she could not afford it all on her own. That Monday she went to work, I called in to my job to take an emergency personal day and packed up my stuff and just left. I changed my cell phone number. Thankfully I worked at a secure location. She wouldn't have been able to get into the parking lot. I stayed with one of my coworkers for a few weeks(or I would have lived in my truck) until I could secure an apt and move in.
Never heard from her again. I simply refused to stay in that relationship that was damaging to my well-being. You need to decide what is right for your well-being since he seems to be damaging yours. IMO, it doesn't matter what happens to him. I was able to walk out on someone and not give a damn what happened to them. Not sure if your are at that point though. Best of luck to you.

If this is your apartment, and he is emotionally draining you, you can get the police to come over,and they will make him leave...I know you feel sorry for him, but if you gave him ample time to leave, and he is still there, the police will get him to leave, just show them a copy of your lease.

meyers

Where did he live before he lived with you? I know you think he can''t take care of himself, but he can.

The rental belongs to both of us so I can't officially kick him out. And if I call the police they will just take him to jail. I've made enough mistakes that have left him in a lot of trouble.

But things are changing. He broke down crying the other day and called his insurance to see if they cover any inpatient rehab which they do not. So he has been looking for a place he can go and get treatment he needs.

I see from what you've posted elsewhere you say he's an addict? You can't let his baggage become your baggage. Shoplifting is taking an enormous chance that you make far too much trouble for yourself, it's not worth your own mental state. You need some help. Hugs.