(((Jessica))) It can be a real mofo at times.

How about http://www.meetup.com to get in contact with others?

I wonder how you can get buy by not doing anything? I mean we either earn money or are supported by others....government or family or both....so there has to be some motivation to get off you butt and go do something? To earn money or just feel better getting outside instead of cooped in homes....the thing is we have to try....if not willing to try pray for willingness....when you get outside the box you might find there are fun things going on all round you that maybe being a volunteer would help you in getting out and doing something on regular basis...I volunteer at the Humane Society because I love doggies....having something I like allows me to get out and find those things outside my home....

My depression has controlled me for too long

How long?

Why are you depressed?

How old are you?

Are you disabled?

Jessica? I lost a brother..it will be 5 years in July. Grief on top of depression can really mess us up. Have you talked to anyone ...either about the depression or the grief? When things get really bad for me, I become unmotivated too. Depression seems to work like that. But honey...I really think you need to talk to someone. Besides us of course....but please keep posting here too. There are folks here that care.

Yes, we definitely care here. (((hugs))) to you, Jessica. Grief is difficult , unpredictable, raw, intense, and brings out so many emotions and thoughts (and sometimes actions) we didn't think we were capable of. Sounds like you were close to your sister, so that can make it all that much harder to get through.
Depression is a tough and lonely journey that only we alone can find the pathway that leads us out and away from it. When I started on the conscious journey to end depression in my mid20's, it was a lot of constant mental work, changing my thoughts and repeating positive mantras that made me change my thoughts in the beginning. It seems childish, trite, cliche, and a bunch of hooey, but it really does work. You have to start somewhere- you have by posting here. Keep that momentum. Do something else, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem.
Above all, please remember to be kind to yourself always.

You're definitely at the right place for support! It takes a lot to reach out for help, so be proud of yourself for that.

Firstly, I'm so sorry to hear about your sister, I can't even imagine. Although you didn't give too much information about your situation, it sounds like you're not making things any easier on yourself. I know that's easier said than done, but if you just tried small things to get yourself up, moving, something to keep your mind off your depression, it will slowly start to help.

I suffer from depression myself and find myself really comfortable and it's always a love hate relationship with my depression. You have to try to get yourself up and doing something. Maybe try taking a trip to the grocery store and making yourself a nice meal one day. I know it seems impossible right now, but it just takes small things to slowly but surely realize there are things you can do to help you cope more.

Are you taking medication? Talking to anyone? You should seek a therapist to talk about these issues.

Goodluck!

Don't worry about people who don't understand what you're going through. They're the lucky ones. They will never have to know what it's like. For me, I can totally relate to everything you are saying. Ihave been battling severe depression for 25 years and some form of depression all my life. I agree that meds and therapy are important starting points. Especially when you're struggling with basic functioning. For me, for example, I need to take a bath today, wash some dishes and do some laundry. And all I can do is one litte step at a time. That's how it has to be done, Just a little at a time. Keep us posted.

I have been laid off from my last 4 jobs. Last one was 2 months long.
I have been unemployed since Jan 12. I was just like you not wanting to do anything. Sleeping longer. I felt hopeless with the current job situation under our president. Companies use you and throw you away. At least that is what I am feeling. I know some day I will have a job and be able to get out of this rut. I laid in bed one night not being able to sleep. I said I will get up tomorrow, take a shower and start doing something. I have to go out and feed chickens, let the dog out. Pets are a great joy for me. I know things will change when I get out of the negative and be thankful for the things I do have. I am blessed. You are blessed too. I lost both my father and step father, recently one of my good layers (chicken). It may be silly, but when I have to bury her, I still grieve. Tomorrow will be a new day, Old things are gone. Be ready for a new you,
she will come.

Oh my goodness, we're like twins. I don't cook, I live on packaged stuff that I'm sure is slowly killing me with all the chemicals and sodium and whatnot. I don't have energy to exercise either, even if it's just a walk outside. I would sleep all day every day if I could. I log enough tv hours to kill a horse (if that were a thing that made sense). I'm bored to tears, but I can't get mus of out of the funk/rut/pit.

I lost my brother a year and a half ago, and lost my dad almost a month ago. The grief definitely doesn't help us come out of the depression - obviously it makes us sink further. My mom has been keeping herself busy and I admire her for it...I do only what I have to, which is go to work. Otherwise, I'm a blob on the couch or in bed.

You're not alone with how you feel. I can't offer any help, since I'm in the same place, but I definitely understand what you're going through.

I'm so very sorry about your sister. From experience, I can tell you that it'll ease. I can't say it gets better or easier, but the pain will lessen.