Hi, I hope you can try Sahaja Yoga as it will help you :) Please see below:

Step 1: Meditation video (Sahaja Yoga): 9 minutes 27 seconds - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fwKd9hUtc4w&t=4s

Step 2: Listen to some Divine music: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nVuQ5NaFML0

Step 3: Contact your local center - https://www.sahajayoga.org/worldwidecontacts

Step 4 Grow deeper (Talks of Shri Mataji Nirmala Devi) - www.amruta.org


You cannot know the meaning of your life until you are connected to the power that created you - Shri Mataji Nirmala Devi

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Peace and Blessings Vegas Guy!
Sorry for your pain, The post above this one proves true that you cannot know the meaning of your life until your are deeply connected to the power that created you. That power in essence is you, It is what makes you- you.
Unfortunately we were all conditioned to react to events in life in a programmed way- we were trained to think by everything that we ever saw around us from birth that a break up is bad. What if your brain was trained to trust every hill and valley in life and that maybe everything in life that happens - does not happen To you but For you?....You see if your ex was becoming abusive - maybe your experience with this part of life has come to a peaceful end. Your healing will only begin when you embrace all and trust the divine to usher you into your next experience of growth with your self firstly and then come what may. The key is to smile through all experience. You see the reason for so much grief is because the heart throughout all remains resilient, It is its nature, So this is just you fighting you right now, Your heart wants to jump and leap and you wont let it because you tie the jumping and leaping of it to that past experience- but the heart is trying to teach you because it loves you that it can leap and jump always if you release it to do so.
So then we see that the heart is the same in nature as the Sun, No matter what the weather - it will breakthrough and shine. This is its nature and so it is with you too.
Do not block your heart from being its true nature, Do not allow your past to steal Joy of today. Connect to the Sun and radiant Energy for these things heal the soul and replenish the Spirit even through tears,
So now let it be time to be there for you- be strong for you and do these things to replenish every wounded part, Take time and focus on you, Close your eyes and picture yourself cleansed and healed and filled with a Peace and radiant Joy. Also picture in your mind, heart Peace radiating over your ex, Let this energy fill your mind , heart and soul. Breathe deeply and then release, Please try these things as well as the wonderful suggestions above, Abundant Joy to radiate within and around you always!

You have an opportunity to learn to connect with yourself.
Happiness does not come from the outside in, it comes from the inside out.
I spent my life looking for ways to escape my depression, drugs & medication, booze, things, people, places... It's when I began to show myself some love and compassion, making the choice to be happy.
I started a gratitude list. Every morning I wrote down three things I am grateful for. Just doing this was very helpful. A good therapist to speak with helped a great deal also.

VegasGuy, I am SO sorry for what you are feeling. Being alone is not an easy place to be. But, you are not completely alone, AND there is hope. Please fight and keep believing there is more for you. I am not sure what your faith looks like and whether or not you beige in God, but He promises never to leave or forsake you. Sending prayers and hugs for way!!!!

@EllaEscribe, Thank you, I need all I can get. Still holding on day by day and hour by hour. I appreciate your kindness. I'm not a religious man, but any good thoughts or prayers I'll accept with heavy gratitude. Take care of yourself as well.

I agree with Ella @Vegas. My divorce was final in Nov 2020. After helping him with his stage 3 cancer, he let his family rip us apart :( Plus, I lost my career due to COVID. At 42 I lost my dear husband, finances, home, and career. These circumstances have opened a door for a whole new life! A chance to go in a new direction. I believe in the power of prayer. I pray you have peace in your heart and mind and that you find a new direction and new love. Amen

You are grieving a huge part of yourself at a time where we are all struggling to get through things by ourselves. There is no magic pill for grief. Have you seen a counselor or are you just assuming that nobody can help you? You have described tremendous pain. Though a therapist cannot be with you outside of your sessions, a good one can walk beside you as you go through this difficult time of life. Just letting all of this off your chest is a good start. Can you begin by just accepting that you're doing the best that you can right now and that you will get through this dark time>

Hi Vegas Guy, My heart breaks for you; I'm sorry for your pain and loss but it's a step in the right direction that you are here seeking help/counsel and being honest with how you are feelings. I am in the same boat as you in many ways. However, Osheana's quote above is point on, "you cannot know the meaning of your life until your are deeply connected to the power that created you. That power in essence is you, It is what makes you- you." I too am grabbing this encouragement to dig deep into my faith believing that as a Christian my Savior and Creator knows me (better than myself since He created me) and I know I will find peace in my life if I put my intention toward getting "deeply connected to the power that created me"! Will be praying for you VegasGuy! You may be broken but know that you are loved!

Hi. I really understand. I've been alone for a very very long time and there is no substitute for love, especially the romantic kind. It's just like going through the motions and people try to comfort you and give you advice but nothing can take the place of having a person there to share your life with. If it's any comfort to you, I've been without a partner or dates for over 30 years. I think there is hope for you since this has been going on for a year. You had a relationship before, you could again. Meanwhile, know that you aren't the only one in this position if that helps. I know you have helped me a lot on here and are one of the few people who really get what I am going through. Don't give up.

Thank you all so much for your kindness and prayers and good thoughts. I'm not religious and don't hold much stock in it, but for those who do, I'm thankful for your prayers and hopeful that they will help me. What's happening to me is situational and there's no logical path out of it.

I lost everything a year ago. My wife left me after 20 years. I loved her, I spent all my energy helping her build her career. She's on top of the world now and then decided she didn't need me anymore. I was there for her at the beginning, I helped her, reassured her when she had doubts, held her when she was scared, nursed her when she had health issues, and always stood beside her. No matter what.

And when she recovered and reached the top, she decided to cut......dead-weight. Me.

As I said, It's been over a year now. I'm still alone and lost. I don't understand how people can be that cruel to each other. What drives that? Do any of you know? Can you relate or understand? I could use an explanation.

I'm not an isolationist. I need people. I need a family, I can't live without love, I can't live without companionship. Living alone like this is killing me, slowly of course, but it's just beating me down piece by piece. I fight every day against the loneliness.

And I don't see anything changing anytime soon.
I just keep holding on and moving forward...for whatever it's worth.

Thank you for your good thoughts.

Wow. What your wife did is very cruel. I have no idea why she would do that. I don't know why people can be so cruel. It kind of sucks because we are pretty much all wired to need other people in our lives but then it is super hard to find people who you can love and trust and have meaningful relationships with. I don't have any advice or anything but I can tell you I'm right there in the battle against loneliness. I think it's one of the hardest things to deal with. Do you go out and socialize much?

Every once in a while I go out, but it's really tough to socialize in a pandemic. I also work from home through video chat, it's not the same thing as meeting with people. Thanks for listening to my rants, it's great to be able to post here when feeling down.

Such struggles have just one seed, which is to know yourself and the reason for your creation. Truth is the only way to achieve the normal life with no worries at all.