People are selfish. They are concerned with their own lives and families. Two things to consider, one they are too busy with their lives to worry about anything else and two if you are always the sad person in the group, people will stop coming round you which will further alienate you. First, get out and meet new ones. Outside of work. Take up a hobby, get out and exercise, become more religious, talk with the neighbors,... you get the idea. Live your life to the fullest and stop looking for friends and one day you will look up and be surrounded

I agree with Thor above yes look for new people to connect with your starting here in this group great job! People are selfishly too worried about what’s going on in their own life’s sadly but this is more of a reason to make sure we always do the same for others

If friends only talk to you when you want something they arent friends.
At least youhave people to talk to at work, many dont have anyone to talk to at all.

Ive found on here everyone wants to be my friend but only so they can bend my ear about their problems and sadnesses, thats using people.

What is the reason behind the depression? What brought it on ?

This idea that if you go and do charity work or voluntary work or join groups etc your prblems are solved is very simplistic. Some are housebound or disabled or too busy. Why assume that a person who is lonely depressed cannot work out who what and where themselves, they are not dumb.

Unfortunately most have their own problems, many have far worse problems only do not go around moaning and looking for sympathy, they try to deal with it the best way they can and avoid others who moan and groan and go to those who are smiling and happy - even if pretending.

I was speaking to two clients today - one was a guy who is seriously disabled and cannot leave his apartment, he has trouble with going to the toilet, washing and dressing, cooking, the lot. His only company is his television. His place is grotty. Nobody visits (BECAUSE IF THEY VISIT HE JUST MOANS AND GROANS AND THEY FIND IT BORING AND SELF OBSESSED).

I spoke to another client who is also housebound and disabled, no family or friends whatsoever, no visitors whatsoever, not because they are boring but because they dont know anyone. Yet that person is smiley and sees the best, they enjoy their life. They make the most of it.

Which would you prefer to talk to?

Your not alone.

It really sounds like you are very depressed to me. And that means you can't turn a switch on and off to feel better. You may have some days that are a bit more bright than others but without treatment it is hard to get well.
I think you have taken a great first step in reaching out to others in this group who have similar symptoms and situations. I love what Sage has said and it is true "You are not alone" here. Your life counts and you deserve to be happy. In the meantime keep reaching out to the right people. I am hearing that there are a lot of virtual groups for people who are depressed and I think that the pandemic has made things much worse for anyone predisposed to depression. Please keep posting here.

You aren't alone and it does suck when people only want to talk when they need something.

I know the feeling I had to set some boundaries this past week with someone I thought cared but was only using me. Well I am sure people do care they just don't always know how to show it. If you ever need to talk I am here.

People are so selfish today. My dog is really my only friend. And it seems today, if you don't agree 100% with people about things, they consider you an enemy. Way too much group think happening and not enough mutual respect.

I've come to the conclusion that being around people isn't a necessity to happiness. Sure, we need human contact and affection, but mainly people nowadays have this "how can I put one over someone for personal gain" attitude. Is aggravation and betrayal really worth the desire of "friends"? Majority of people now wants to be Instagram stars, live like Jerry Springer guests & go out of their ways to be offended by foolishness.

Find a hobby; date yourself (well it's tough now with this pandemic): cook yourself a nice meal; journal; write poetry; do art; read; listen to music; watch a film. Exercise; Meditate --whatever that you choose to enjoy make it something safe, gratifying & that positively impacts you.

I understand unfortunately. HUG. hang in there.

New to this. I read your post and i feel exactly the same way. Rely on the strength inside you, Believe me its there.

I can relate. I have no RL friends. I reach out, I care but no one ever wants to know what is going on with me. It is hard.
So I do things to encourage myself. I read, I learn. I do my own projects. I think that most of us feel this way. The old saying is "no man is an island" but I have come to the conclusion that I am an island and my purpose is to make it be the best island it can be.
I don't know if that will help you at all. But I don't see another way. So if I am happy and content and living my life....what do I care if others don't want to be included. At least that is the mindset I am going with. Yes it is lonely. But better to be alone (for me) then to just be used and ignored.