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I'm 45 and losing everything.

virginiadale
virginiadale
I got sick a year ago with a brain tumor and thyroid tumor,then I lost my job and insurance before I could have anything done.My wife lost her job 5 months ago and now we are losing or home two weeks before Christmas.I sold my truck and bought an rv so we won't be on the streets.I have to get rid of everything I own and having trouble letting go.I just can't see anything ever getting better.Is there anyone that can help me see a better ending than what is in my mind now.I have just given up and I don't want to.Please help me see something good out of my situation.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Your life royally sucks at the moment. The only thing I can say is at least you have you wife by your side. You aren't alone, you have people that love and care about you. Possessions don't make you who you are and in the long run don't matter as much as people like to think they do. Just as long as you manage to scrape enough money to have a roof over your head and have your wife by your side all else is luxury. My heart does go out to you though and I wish there was something I could do to help you out. If you ever need someone to talk to feel free to message me! I am on here all the time and try my best to give others support as they give me support and the will to keep fighting.
wep
wep
Hi virginiadale,

I don't have a advice or opinion but I can tell you I understand the agony you are going through. I agree, at least you have your wife, she can communicate with you but far as myself I feel so alone. If I state my real feelings, others in my home would certainly take offense to it.

I feel so sorry that you have lose all your belongings. We MIGHT move back to california and I am nervous about it. I remember that we moved in the past before and l lost several things, I am so nervous that would happen again. I had been thinking that it is too bad we can't see beyond our nose, if we could, there would be several things we won't do. If I could see pass my nose, I would never move to the place I am currently living at now because the heartache is real bad. I miss the days when things were okay, and I see that my mom is having a heartache due to a relationship she had with someone who she learned is not a pleasant person; after that relationship ended, she went through another bad stressor.

I honestly do not know how to think.
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
The thing that comes out in my mind .. is your wife has not given up (on you). Besides the fact that if you give up .. you lose .. if you 'do what you have to do', you survive ... and who knows what the future brings? I am sure better times are ahead for you .. I have faith in that.

Don't give up.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Bad things happen to good people. In a crappy economy like this one, it is made worse by the lack of funds and safety nets. I am truly sorry you are caught in this and doubly so that your health is no good.

Buying the rv is brilliant. You will always have someplace this way. Try to think of this as paring down what you don't need, rather than 'having to get rid of everything.' You and your wife are about to embark on an adventure -- not one of your choosing, but an adventure nonetheless. I pray that his adventure can you bring you smiles along with the obvious trials.

Best of luck!