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I love her

Kelsey1011
Kelsey1011

New to this so not sure even what to say or anything.... so I dated this girl for a little over a year and she was my first everything I still love her and stuff but we been broken up for over a year now! I don't know how to move on so I've been very depressed lately... am I stupid for still loving her? We are also sort of friends cuz I don't wanna lose her should I just let her go completely? 

Community LeaderThePepperMan
ThePepperMan
I think you need to be honest with yourself about why you are still friends with her. If you are hoping that you two will get back together, then the value of that choice depends on if she is at all open to getting back together. If she has "moved on" then that is a sign that she is not considering it, and staying friends may be more heartache for you than anything else.

I have long believed that the only real cure for the heartache of breaking up is getting into new relationships. staying active outside of your ex.

I vote for letting go. If you two were meant to be friends, then it will happen in its own time

But that is just me and how I did things.
Heidiclark
Heidiclark
I would have to agree with Pepperman. As hard and painful as it may be I think you should move on and work on developing other relationships. What kinds of hobbies do you have? Try joining a meetup online where you can meet people with swimilar interests as your own, Get outside and take a long walk in a nice park or take a bike ride to a new place you haven't yet explored. Have fun!
Kelsey1011
Kelsey1011
We will never get back together I know that but losing her completely with hurt bad so I'm okay with being friends... I have tried talking to other people and trying to meet someone to start a relationship withat but no one gives me time of day
catch_the_music
catch_the_music
I have been where you are at before. You want to get back together because you benefited from the relationship. However that feeling needs to go both ways. She has to feel that way too. At this point you should think about moving on. I recommend finding a good Christian Singles group near you. To find groups, you can call churches in your area or check on Meetup.com. I found Christian singles groups have a lot to offer. They usually have messages which help you rise above your circumstances and get you thinking positively about future relationships. These groups taught me what makes a good relationship and also, what makes a good marriage. I found out a lot of things that I never knew before. Now that I am married, I really appreciate learning those skills. Good luck my friend! Your best dating days are ahead of you!