Don't you hate when that happens? It's hard for me too at times. If it's something I can't keep most of the time I just tell a trusted friend who I know will keep a secret and keep to themselves. This way I feel like I've let something out of my system.

We say things at the heat of the moment!

Hope and pray there are no serious consequences.

It is a situation we all face at one time or another .... being required to withhold a TRUTH. Very hard situation. I tend to tell the truth when it is called for ... at most any price. Seems to work better that way.

I know thst feeling very well. I thought I was helping and I ended up the bad guy

Hugs

Been there. Have been asked to keep things secret that have started to eat me alive. So I let them out.

Being put in a situation of withholding information makes your world smaller. Just as much as relying on drugs or alcohol.

there are certain rules your parents were trying to make you break.

Secrets don't work in families. Nobody can be expected not to tell their spouse a thing you told them, and nobody can be expected not to tell a sibling. Family rules are 'no secrets' rules. Famillies are destroyed by secrets. they all belong in the secret clubhouse together, not one of them outside knocking, and the rest of them giggling inside. All for one, one for all.

If mum and dad want to get all screwed up at you for telling just ask them who blabbed first?

If they can't keep a secret, why should you?

lol. Parents know perfectly well not to tell one child if they don't want all the kids to know. We learn very early on never to blab on dad - kid will go straight to dad. Never to blab on wife - kid will go straight to wife.

Any child worth his salt won't play the secrets game.

Your parents love you, but they took this risk, and they're grownups, so they can be deemed to have already considered that you would blab. Maybe they hoped you would blab in such a way that your sister was sworn to secrecy against telling them, and therefore would have time to digest something she otherwise would go off half cocked about?

Who knows. :D

DEAR LORD
HELP SCALLIWAG'S SIS 2 KEEP WHATEVER SHE WAS TOLD 2 HERSELF.
IJN, AMEN
;-O

I think it is very unkind for anybody to burden a person with a secret that they are not allowed to share. I always assume that my wife is allowed to share in any secret I am told, so much so that I assume it is universally known.

Perhaps the same can be said for sisters who are very close!

Work with your sister to keep it from traveling beyond the 2 of you.

Besides, such a secret can hurt a person who has no outlet for it.

Unfortunately, it probably will be blurted out at some point. All you can do is own up to the mistake and offer a sincere apology if it happens. I once opened my mouth when I shouldn't and owning up to it with no excuses and apologizing made a difference.

Don't be too hard on yourself. You did what you thought was right at the time.And I agree with Pepperman that you should not have been burdened with this secret in the first place.