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I hate myself for this .....

newdrake308
newdrake308
I am very attracted to my friend and room mate. She and I both know we need to reamain friends for our relationship to work. I cannot stop these feelings. Redirecting them does not make it any better. Counselling is just beginning and I am too new to my therapist to broach this right now. I am getting worse with my depression because of this. How does someone recondition themselves to not feel this way??? It is eating me alive. I love her as a friend and I don't want to lose her. What can I do ???
WallyBear
WallyBear
Sweetheart,
Please Don't "Hate" Yourself.
We Cannot Help Who We Are Attracted To But We Can Stop Ourselves From Doing Something We Will Regret.
Something That Will Hurt Us.
Please Talk To Your Therapist About This. He/She Will Be Able To Advice You Much Better Than I Can ............

BUT If It Were Me, I Think I'd Make Light Of The Whole Situation.
I Would Probably Make The Other Person Wear A Sign That Said.
"DON'T TOUCH!!!! Off Limits!!!" "DANGER!!" :)
I Use Humor To Defuse As Many Problems As I Can :)
Knowing The Feelings Are There But Not Worth Risking The Friendship May Actually Strengthen The Friendship.

Good Luck Honey.
Much Love And Lots Of ((((((((HUGS)))))))
deleted_user
deleted_user
Just take it day by day. I know the feeling well mostly I work out if there is anything really there.
BlueYonderDreams
BlueYonderDreams
Why do you think it is too soon to broach this subject in counseling? Is it because you are uncomfortable? If you're not, it's never too soon. If this is a subject currently dragging you down I don't see why it would be an issue to address it ASAP.\
Cypressmoon1
Cypressmoon1
I would move out. Get a male roommate, olddrake.
penntucky
penntucky
its only NATURAL to be attracted to somebody of the opposite sex when you are living together.

frustrated love---lots of movies and novels and true stories about that.

maybe you two even spend more time with one another than you do with other people?

some people who carpool together, during some hour or two ride wind up getting married, and of course there are the work relationships that develop.

Seinfeld even had an episode in which him and ex-gf, Elaine, who became friends wound up being together again.

http://youtu.be/MLmrpctTvmc
LuvMyTitans
LuvMyTitans
Hey sweetie. I messaged you. I can imagine how difficult this situation is . :(

((((((((((( comforting hugs and love )))))))))))))

me
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