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I feel so horrible.

MorningSadness00
MorningSadness00
I feel so horrible....

I have a almost 3 year old, who i have bonding issues with... it hurts my heart... I just dont want to do anything with him... it hurts a lot.... I have bonding issues with him because, i have PTSD from his father being abusive to me while i was pregnant and after I had him...I really don't know what to do. It makes me so depressed. I can't take care of MY own child, who i love more than anything in the world. My heart is breaking for him. He doesn't have a good father, and doesn't have a mentally stable mother. It's just not fair. I don't even take care of him anymore, my mom does, and that makes me feel guilty. I don't think i'll ever be a good mother or be able to take care of my child, and the thought of that makes me very depressed. He deserves a good mother, and i feel like i cant give him that. :(( I don't know what to do... I love him, i really do, its just so hard. :((
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are not a terrible mother. You are having problems. Not sure if you are seeing anyone, if not maybe you sould. I know its not a matter of love, you love him dearly, your issues are keeping from showing it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I strongly believe that you absolutely MUST seek a trained professional to be able to genuinely deal with the complexity of issues that exist here. Often times I feel that people can get trough their depression, anxiety, etc... by talking to and listening to untrained supporters, but not in this case.

Please consider what I am saying and seek professional help. I firmly believe that the mental, emotional, and physical health of you and your child depends on it.

You are in my thoughts. Huge hugs to you for reaching out for our support and advice.
meandthebeast
meandthebeast
I have to agree with my good friend Anthony. You need some help with this and it is not fair for you or your child to have to suffer. You do not want your little boy to be raised to have low self -esteem and feel he is not loved do you?

I had my first son around your age and his father left me to raise him by myself with some help from my mother. I had to learn how to be a mother and went to counseling as I had come up in an abusive household and never wanted him to feel unloved.. YOU CAN DO IT!!!!!!!!.. Not only for him but for yourself... stay strong..... He needs you now..
deleted_user
deleted_user
(((((((((((Comforting Hugs))))))))))) honey....great advice offered. Please reach out for professional help. You and your son deserve it. :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
Knowing how to be a mother is not born in us. We have to learn it. And every negative life experience we have until we become a mother has a great affect on what kind of mother we become. I sucked at being am other. I didn't know how to take care of him and struggled with it. Then not to long after had my daughter who hated me when she was born. In time, I had to go to some counseling to learn to be a mother after I got rid of my awful husband. Sweetie, you can learn to be a good mother, but you truly do need help. And maybe beyond therapy, go to some parenting classes. You can do this. Just follow through with therapy and I know you will be a great mother.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Knowing how to be a mother is not born in us. We have to learn it. And every negative life experience we have until we become a mother has a great affect on what kind of mother we become. I sucked at being am other. I didn't know how to take care of him and struggled with it. Then not to long after had my daughter who hated me when she was born. In time, I had to go to some counseling to learn to be a mother after I got rid of my awful husband. Sweetie, you can learn to be a good mother, but you truly do need help. And maybe beyond therapy, go to some parenting classes. You can do this. Just follow through with therapy and I know you will be a great mother.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Knowing how to be a mother is not born in us. We have to learn it. And every negative life experience we have until we become a mother has a great affect on what kind of mother we become. I sucked at being am other. I didn't know how to take care of him and struggled with it. Then not to long after had my daughter who hated me when she was born. In time, I had to go to some counseling to learn to be a mother after I got rid of my awful husband. Sweetie, you can learn to be a good mother, but you truly do need help. And maybe beyond therapy, go to some parenting classes. You can do this. Just follow through with therapy and I know you will be a great mother.