you are not alone- you will make it through....there will be brighter days ahead.
hate to see you suffer- i have suffered too
just try to stay positive- at least for a few minutes in the day.
(((((hugs)))))

I think you just simply need an attitude adjustment. I'm not saying it's going to be easy but I think it's a start to turning your life around. Some people just attract others by being confident & sure of themselves but if you are a sad & miserable person right now, people are not going to want to be around that. Everyone lives for themselves. When people choose to spend their time with you, it's out of the fact that they're getting something from it too. When others radiate positivity & a fun loving personality, other people can't help but want to be around that.

Now some people just don't feel up to it so loneliness grows off of them like a cancer. Trust me I've been there, probably still am but slowly getting myself out of the shadows of depression. At times we can't help it though especially when we are let down by those who we care about. Life certainly isn't fair but it makes sense to a certain degree. People who attract others aren't always the best of people but since they have people around them so often, it would only make sense that they have more competition of who they should spend there time with. In real life, God doesn't choose that the bad suffer & the good triumph. It's really what you work for is what you get. Everything is usually relative.

There's my "words of wisdom" about life. Now here's my advice; if this keeps going on for lets say two more months since it's been already four months, you should see a counselor maybe once every two weeks (start off light). Just talk to somebody about how you're feeling if the feelings intensify. It's really no big deal but if things are troubling you & you feel powerless to control things & are harboring such negative thoughts about the way life turned out just talk to someone about it, you've got nothing to lose. Try to call up friends to hang out, maybe you're the one who's got to put in the effort to getting your friends back & maybe even your mood lately as been a factor for why you've been feeling so isolated. Just try to be strong, plan goals & activities for yourself & actually follow through with them. You need to keep yourself motivated & mentally healthy.

God is not doing this to you, your ex wife did. I think you made a wise choice in not quitting your job for now. Maybe you want to put some resumes out and see what happens. Perhaps your depression since the breakup is keeping people away. Sometimes we are not even aware of the negative singles we put out there during depression. People tend to drift towards the positive not the negative. If seeing her every day is causing you so much pain, maybe you should leave your job, BUT, do it wisely. Make sure you have somewhere to go to. Maybe God is trying to tell you to move on because he has something bigger and better for you. Again, look for it first. Don't just leave.

Well first of all, I believe you did the right thing in taking back your resignation. The worst thing you could have done is to quit and make your life worse over something somebody else did.

I know it is frustrating to see your ex is doing well, but forget how she is doing. Just because she seems fine on the outside doesn't mean she is fine on the inside. You can't judge people by outwards appearances. Eventually, she will be made to answer for what she has done somehow.

What you need to do is focus on you and living your life. Don't let her continue to hold power over your life.

I think it's easy for us to sit around waiting for good things to happen, but the reality is we have to get out there and make good things happen. It's not fair to blame God when we aren't using the gifts he gave us. You can't sit around expecting God to hand you everything on a silver platter. You were capable of finding love at least once. You are capable of finding it again.

Try to focus on doing things positive for yourself. Find a new hobby, take a new class, join a new group, etc. The more positive you feel about your life the easier it will be for you to attract people.