my depression fuels my anger, i dont fight the anger as much because i would surely rather be pissed off than sad.

My anger either turns inwards and makes me depressed OR I get really really pissed at inanimate objects. Like for some reason I really want to avoid conflict.

I try every day to let go of my anger.

I get what you are saying and don't want to give advice on a thread that maybe doesn't need it, but I have found meditating and learning to let go one of the best tools in trying to combat my feelings of depression.

Sorry if that was uncalled for.

Hello James,

I don't have a problem with advice. Except for taking it. That's tough.

i find getting even pretty refreshing...

I don't get angry often...it is a new emotion to me, I have spent most of my life in a state of numbness... for me with the DID feeling anger is a good thing when it does happen or so they tell me... personally I don't like it much!

I used to express a lot of anger. I was a real pain in the ass. But I'm not sure it did much except make everyone else careful and/or tired of me.

Somehow that's mostly a thing of the past. Maybe it had to do with my hormones when I turned 40, I sure didn't do anything to work it out.

But I can be messed up plenty without showing anger. No shortage of ways.

this thread reminded me of one of my favorite quotes...depression is anger without enthusiasm.

yeah...or anger without energy.

that's really frustrating....ends up in tears and all snotty and swollen......

Very hard to deal with anger in "healthy' ways....the healthy ways are not very satisfying.

Use breathing techniques and logic...that's what I do.

good luck, and peace~

Both emotions are exhausting and hurt you as much as others. It's easy to get depressed with all the bad things going on in the economy, there would be something wrong with you if you didn't get depressed. I read once that if you see someone in an elevator smiling that you should get out.

When I was battling the worst of my PTSD I used anger to get me out of the depths from hell. Anger brought back my resiliency and gave me what I needed to claw my way back. Now that I have come this far, I have let go of the anger and have comes to terms with the reality of my new life. The new Rae has shaken hands with the old Rae and I can continue on my journey of recovery...physically, mentally, emotionally, and psychologically. Anger is a neccessary phase that one must go through.

On the PTSD board we did a exercise which was a really fun healthy way for us to release some anger towards our abusers or in general anyone who has pissed us off. We wrote out our "Anger Fantasies". How would you punish that one person? How would you get your vengeange so that you could move forward. Now this is a great tool in order to release those pent up feelings..just don't ever really act on them.

I think some psychiatrists believe depression is anger turned inward. I'm not so sure they're right, but maybe a little bit right. What do you think?

I know I feel a lot of anger. But not always. And I'm depressed.

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I read that "getting even" exercise/fantasy of yours Rae. If I ever see you with a rope but without a sincere-looking smile I'm running for my life.

I would have loved the chance to physically hurt my step-father. The things he did put him beyond forgiveness. If there is a Hell I'm sure he's there, although he may be one of Satan's right-hand men.

Most of the other people I'm mad at enough to wish I could get revenge, I let them do what they did because of my own low self-esteem. I'm more mad at myself than them. I hope I can continue to learn and progress, to stick up for myself.

@ScaredAlone I second that! ;)

My depression does stem from being angry and not being able to act on it. I've been a larger than my peers person for most of my life. (except when I was in middle school and was bullied by a girl that had two feet and a couple of pounds on me) It was enforced into me at a young age that I might be able to do something to "really hurt" someone, and so should never get into fights or hit anyone.

When I get angry, I get flushed with adrenaline that I do nothing with. I start trembling and get a very queasy feeling. The frustration and sadness follow quickly on its heels.

Sometimes, I think I might be okay if I could just hit someone; but I'm too frightened to do so. I'm even more frightened that I wouldn't stop.