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I can't take anymore! All I do is hurt people.

chemtrooper
chemtrooper

I can't do this anymore!  I've tried finding things to live for, to keep me going.  My wife and I have been fighting lately and there seems to be no end in sight.  I've stopped crying and now I'll stop trying to fix my life.  All I seem to do is hurt her.  My heart hurts for her, I want her to be happy.  I've reached out to everyone I know in the last few months and most everyone has been supportive.  I love her, but I don't know how to love her anymore.  

jewells1
jewells1
Loving and learning to love is a good goal. I shut down for two years and it almost cost me too much. My time with my husband was limited by cancer, I didn't know that then. So look into therapy for you and a couple therapy or activity for you both.
You love her enough to ask for help, now love her enough to do the work with her and yourself. Life is not guaranteed, time is not guaranteed,
VictoriaBlack
VictoriaBlack
It must be so frustrating and upsetting when you feel like you are trying to give someone what they need but nothing seems to be working.
Reaching out and maybe looking into therapy might help you get through this extremely difficult time.
I am always here to listen if you need anything.
sharaninmd
sharaninmd
Sorry you and your wife are going through this difficult time. You may want to try couples therapy for the both of you. You may want to consider therapy for yourself. I wish you the best and hope all works out for you. Don't give up.
Harry_Waters
Harry_Waters
It appears you believe you are in a black hole at the moment. Or like a steam train going through a dark, unlit tunnel. I have been married for over 18 years, and there were times my wife and I fought so much that I felt such a distance - like I was just a burden to her. However, I read that opposites often attract, and complement each other. I also would listen when my wife said "don't depend on me for total happiness. I am only human and will fail you. Depend on God alone for your happiness." That helped me a lot - to know that I can't totally make my wife happy, nor can she make me totally happy. But... the concept of her complementing my weaknesses, and me providing her strength and help when she most needs it helped me a lot. Our marriage isn't perfect today, but I have become closer to her and she lets me know in subtle ways that she is happy with me - though neither of us are pleased with the other all the time. Tolerance and patience has grown, together with perseverance.