Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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b_happy 12/01/2016

I'm having the hardest time coping with the death of my grandma. She was my closest friend. I lived and breathed for her and now that she's gone in in a downward spiral and I'm losing control. I've been getting high on whatever pills and coke I can get and I'm constantly considering suicide with the nearest resources available at the moment. I am really struggling to stop myself. Is there any way I can basically have someone else stop me physically so I don't have to worry about doing something awful that will impact my loved ones? I don't really want put in an institution or anything. I just don't know my options. I'm 20 years old and everyone always says I have a good head on my shoulders. They don't know this side of me.

Gladdmatt 12/02/2016

I am so very sorry for your devastating loss. There may be a group in your area or a therapist that specializes in grief over lost loved ones. You can also go to your nearest hospital and tell them how you feel and what you are doing. You will NOT automatically be institutionalized, it doesn't work that way any more. But you can perhaps get some meds with a dr. who monitors your progress and/or get other useful tools. I'll pray for both you and your grandmother. Please don't take your life, your grandmother wouldn't have wanted you to. Stay alive for her if you cannot do it for yourself.

djchurn 12/02/2016

Find ways to live and behave in ways that will complement the legacy of your GM. Pills and coke do not show respect for yourself, let alone for your GM.

b_happy 12/02/2016

Thank you both. You're right. And the advice helps. On Saturday I may go to the doctor to talk about my problem. Hopefully I can break myself of these habits. I know there are NA groups that meet up a lot in the weeks. Maybe I could start going to those.

ThePepperMan 12/02/2016

I have suffered many losses in my life: pets, family, friends, public figures that I liked a lot. Some have been hard to take, others have been comparatively easy. I am sorry that you lost somebody so special at such a young age.

I think it is good to try to become the person that your grandmother was to you. That is such a wonderful way to honor her memory. It will be a hard journey, but it will be a worthwhile one.

Gentle hugs

unostock 12/02/2016

Well death is not the end, your grandmother will be watching down on you through life so be like the grandmother you love, be her legacy, make her proud of you by becoming your very best and perhaps passing that down to your future children. Look to the future not the past. Become great in the eyes of your grandmother as that greatness is already within you, you just need to let it shine forth like the grandmother you love.

BlueLilly1 12/02/2016

We're all here for you - mourning the death of a loved one is awful but don't lose who you are as a person. Just think about your Grandma, she wouldn't want you doing this stuff and she'd want you to be happy. If anything, think about how short life is and how you should treasure every person you love and every minute of your life. I'm 20 years old, similarly had crappy habits - as soon as you kick them to the curb and take up the healthier ones (signing up for a weekend sport, doing weekly yoga/zumba classes with friends, taking up cooking, painting etc.) you'll be able to channel that hurt into something that's better for you.

It's awful, it's never easy. But you're not alone. Don't give up on yourself.

sarahm 12/03/2016

sending you love and prayers <3

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