Hi Wendy
I'm so sorry that you feel this way. Please feel free to pm me. I get very lonely and sad too. I am dealing with a lot of loss and illness. I am not religious but everyone is unique and I am sure that you are doing nothing to turn others away. Can you go to a hospital for a few days? If you're feeling that low, it makes sense to call a counselor, if you have one; if you don't you can go to an emergency room or call your primary doctor.
It sounds like you need to get out of the environment that you're in and work on a plan to get out of this situation. I agree calling a suicide line must be very hard. And you're right nobody should have to feel that way that you do. I am here for you and I know that others are too. Please feel free to pm me and we can chat.
I don't know you but I care about you. You matter to me. There is always hope

Hi Janny,
Thank you for writing. That means a lot to me. Lately I've been feeling like I must be a hideous person to have no one care about me except on here and of course no one here has actually met me. I'm sorry you are going through a lot of unhappiness. Yes, let's be friends on here and maybe we can be a support to each other. Your words were very soothing to me and thanks for saying you care about me. Chat again soon. Wendy

I have a family member who is quite popular with both men and women. Being popular takes some work but if you want more friends, here are some things L saw,

1. The standard, ask people questions about their interests work, smile, and display genuine interest in them. Before you meet someone try to learn something about them or their interests.

2. Smile and when you see people you know, be excited to see them.

3. Don't get rattled. My friend, had a few things go wrong at a charity event, he didn't get rattled and had a nice event.

4. Dress well, have a few nice things . He gets a few tailored suits.

5. Be a nice person, yes, people want to be around nice people.


Hey I'm not telling you to do all this. Sometimes, I'm happy to go into town, grab a book and eat a meal on my own, but if you want friends it's possible.

All I can tell you, Wendy, is everything has two sides. There IS happiness in life. There are many who are happy and many who are not. For most, there are happy times and sad times.

I cannot tell you how to be happy. I know happiness starts WITHIN ... just like sadness does.

There are thousands of books on the subject. I think you can learn to be happy.

Last of all, ... I am sincerely sorry you suffer ... and there are many here who DO CARE ABOUT YOU. I know it is not the same offline as it is online, but you can't really say no one cares. I do .... and so do others.

I hope you find enough support here ... as you learn to discover happiness 'out there.'

People do care, I care, you can get through this please pm if you need to

While it’s helpful to have people around to help, it’s not the most important thing. The most important thing is to do it for yourself. Worry about yourself for a little. It’s not being selfish or egotistical. You have to do it for yourself. If you can’t do it for yourself what does it matter if there’s someone else. There has to be strong roots for a tree to grow big. If you don’t care about yourself how can you expect others too. I’m not saying you personally, it’s just what I tell myself when i feel like that. Easier said than done I know, but one step at a time. You always have the DS community here to help out.

Thank you guys for the wonderful support and advice. You keep me going. xoxox

Message me if you want to chat. I understand being lonely and I understand being tired and overwhelmed. I think wanting to lay down and give up is a pretty normal reaction. Thinking about ending it and actually doing it are 2 dif things. It's normal to want to protect yourself from pain and exhaustion. If you ask me, those people who thrive on stress and love pain are the ones who aren't normal and need to worry. Not us simple overworked depressed lonely people.

Hi Wendy! I, too, am sorry you're hurting so much. I feel your pain... I totally understand how lonely you feel. I have a few friends but don't see them very often since I haven't been feeling well for several months and don't get out very often. It's tiring and depressing not feeling well for so long. Some days I wish I could go to sleep and not wake up.... I used to be a bubbly and lively person but I'm not anymore...
I do care and am here for you.