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guitarman79
guitarman79

My Mother just came home from church, I am not a particularly religious She's like, You can still catch  the 11:30 mass,  then a few  minutes later I said I would go, then she said I didn't have to, that she was just kidding....which makes me feel guilty.....There was time I said........I didn't know Bout religion anymore, her responce.......Ya wanna go to hell?


I just don't know what to do anymore, it's  making me feel guilty, How do I deT WITH THE GUILT-TRIP AND THE SAARCASM?

OlderCPer
OlderCPer
Well your an adult and you can make your own decisions. So, you can simply say, "Thanks mom, I've got it covered" and walk away.

The sarcasm, it sounds like has been going on along time and is part of her personality so you have to learn to ignore it, because odds are at her age, she isn't going to change.

The guilt...what do you feel guilty about? Because you didn't run off to church when mommy said to??? That's ridiculous. First off, you can be religious, spiritual, lead a faith-filled life, etc.....without going to church. Many of us do. Why, because we've had or seen too much of organized religion over the years....and it's utter failures.

The guilt is something your putting on yourself, and you are the only one who can make it stop. Your an adult, you don't have to do or react to every thing your mom says. Stand up for yourself, make your own choices, and ignore mom's not-so-charming personality. If she's mouthy, go for a walk, get some sunshine.

Guilt-trips serve no purpose but to trip you up! So stop, you don't have anything to be guilty for. Remind mom that your a grown woman and you can make your own choices.
LindsayAlone
LindsayAlone
It may be your mother. Parents are seen differently than other ppl, but parents have their internal problems too. My mom would say things that hurt me and I left home when I was 17. It’s also impossible for me to talk to her about any problems I have with her bc she’d go into straight rage & denial. Don’t let her give you negative feelings. I’m sure in her way, it was unintentional and may be a part of who she is. It’s hard to deal with.
Kingsolomon66
Kingsolomon66
Religion, or should I say faith is a extremely delicate subject because it can be so very intimate to each person. It should be respected that in some cases it should not be mocked. It's a common response from your mother and I'm sure not meant to injure but it is a common reason why people end up despiseing faith, religion, and their understanding of a higher Divinity because the guilt you feel in HOW your suppossed to believe finally turns to anger against. I have become deeply religious in my later life because I made it individual and personal. Tell your mom you love her and explain that her sarcasm is causing guilt. Tell her to show the third of the three words of God (written, spoken, and LIVING) by loving you and let you and your higher work it out. Love
guitarman79
guitarman79
Lindsay,
My Mom is the same way, Can not a conversation with her.
One day, I ca,e home from the gym, she asked if I talk about her.

It does make me feel bad, Cause I do love her, And Appreciate everything she's done for me.......I just need to talk someone that will listen.
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