this is the place to find the people you seek, hence why i am here also. maybe someday i will meet a soul that i can to tell all my dark secrets too and they wont judge me either. i would continue to use this forum or even add people here who you can private message and tell them what is going on, they might have some good advice. =)

HI HONEY GENTLE HUGGLES TO YOU,
IF YOUR WANTING A FRIEND TO VENT RANT AND CHAT TO LOOK ME UP...
I MAY NOT NO ALL THE ANSWERS BUT IM A REAL GOOD LISTENER XO DC [F.UK]

You can find friends here at DS and talk about your issues as much as you want. I don't have many friends in the "non-virtual" world but can talk to people here fairly easily.

Ty you all.so very much. It means the world to me.

yeah, there are nice people here. Have you tried marriage counseling?

hi
ive been wondering the same thing for a really long time.
i dont know how you make friends in real life.ive got many online friends but no real life friends.its too hard to have friends,though i would really love to
sorry for such a negative reply.i hope you find somebody to confide in,and i wish you well in finding friendships
xxxx

HI!
I am so sorry for all your trouble in your marriage. He is very controling and sounds like has taken control of your life. Yes, I can see how you need someone to talk to!!! Therapist is always a good item but, chose carefully and you make have to "shop" to find the right one you click with. This can be expensive and I hope you have the funds. Will he even "let" you go to see someone. I hate to be bad news Charley, but can you get out of the marriage and be yourself again?

Now as far as making friends I can not be to much help there. I am very to myself because of my depression and anxiety that only a few understand. I get hurt very easily so taking a risk at opening myself up is not easy. Wish I could help...but I am here to listen!

He has controlling tendacies.....yes.....but luckily he is not full blown ...........hide the keys to the car controlling. But every aspect of this life with him his hard. He is taking video of every mistake I make when he pushes my buttons emotionally to use in court if we divorce:-(. I wish I had an ignore button:-(

Wow, that's very serious, in my humble opinion. This sounds less like a trust issue and more like all-out abuse. He is actively trying to manipulate you to get a certain response that he then records for basically blackmail purposes?! If I were you, I'd get out NOW, stay with your own friends or family. Regroup, see an individual therapist ASAP, consider getting a lawyer on board if you have the means. I wouldn't worry about the recordings. They were taken without your permission and I would hope a good divorce lawyer will get them thrown out of court. They were HIS mistake for being an abusive jerk, not yours. A really good lawyer with evidence from a doctor might even be able to use them to show the husband's pattern of abuse and exacerbation (or outright cause!) of your illness, depression.

Nobody deserves to be treated this way, by anyone, ever, not even for a second...much less someone you have opened your heart and committed your life to. I don't know what else he's done to you, and I know you've just given us a brief glimpse. I'm very scared for you. Please look after yourself, and keep us in the loop if you're able to.

PS: In case you can't tell, I'm really *%#^(!sed now! You deserve so much better.

I'm not all that worried about the video. I am more disturbed by that kind of behavior. I am trying to get to a counselor. He is simply pissed and trying to keep me in this state if I divorce him. He does not want to be away from his daughter. I know I have issues but I have turned my life around because I almost lost her once because I reacted to him and I don't want to do it ever again. Ty for your support. It does fill me with the happiness I need to get through the day:-)

I have one friend that I see for an hour a week and I pay her to listen. She's my therapist. I can't make friends either so I rent one.

I have thought about being a therapist for friends but I would feel bad charging someone to be a friend . Is it a hooker lol? Jk....got that from from of your last post:-) to someone with a broken heart:-). Please do not take it as insulting.

It's hard to make friends - or better stated, find an empathetic person who will just listen and let you get it out. No advice. No interrupting you to spill their own stuff (at least not while you still need to spill yours). No book, etc. suggestions. Just listen. I am a good listener, but unfortunately I am in a small minority.

Funnily enough, today I happened to be out for a walk around my condo complex and I happened to say hello to a nice young man who was just getting into his car. He seemed to be exactly that empathetic type of person who i would have loved to talk to. I felt like he might have been a gay man. I am a straight woman and have often found gay men to be good friends.