Get out of yourself and really talk to the people you are with. People mostly just want to talk about themselves, so indulge them. That is the key to socializing when you don't really want to. Don't focus on yourself, focus on others

@LittleSadie i'm not saying it's because i'm too good for them. it's exhausting. being with people is. a trigger for my depression but he said that it also will help if i am with people. so i'm not really understanding your comment really.

@Dan_99 i TOTALLY get you. for me even if i don't want to go. i want people to invite me anyway bc then i know that someone in the world does value me. it's a self worth thing.. i guess. thanks for your comment

I never said you think you are too good for people? I understand that it is draining to be around people when you are battling depression.
Tried to offer some tips there.
What do you want to hear?

Women especially are more empathetic to other peoples vibes. So going out with others doesn't mean you have to be the entertainment, but if the feelings sink in a bit, you feel a rise , just from experiencing it. The more you do it the more you are comfortable with it. These emotional muscles need workouts too. So go to a positive place, invite a friend to find an off the beaten path couny fair and just soak it up.

I too struggle with isolation. Going to the library helps me to be 'around people' and I don't have to talk...I can just smile which is a 'form of communication'. The same goes for grocery store, malls, beach, parks where ever there are people...even restaurants sitting up on a stool, not at a table sometimes it's easier for me to talk with strangers.

I don't know if you're a coffee drinker but sometimes that helps me get through a social gathering. I'm an introvert and struggle with crowds or groups of people. Coffee gives me a boost and makes me feel like I can talk and be social. I know what some of you mean by wanting to be invited but being uncomfortable if you go. What a constant battle. Introversion is not easy but cuddling up with the cat and a book sure is.

If you are up to it, maybe you can take some sort of class such as painting, cooking, cake decorating or whatever interests you. You would meet new people and gradually get to know them. You could join a gym where there are lots of people. Start by asking a friend or coworker to go out for lunch. It wouldn't take a lot of time for you to worry about what to say. Stay positive and spend your time with positive people.

thank you everyone. ill take all your comments into consideration.

Feel free to only take these comments into consideration. If they help then that's great. If not I am sure that you will still find your way. I have the same trouble with being around people. Maybe try joining a group of people who have similar interests like a book club through your library, if you like to read. Also there are groups online called meet up where you can meet others in your area who share an interest. Also I want to add that no one makes a career out of depression. The notion is absurd as I am sure you already know so you can ignore that statement. And I seriously doubt that you are sitting around on your behind as was previously stated so ignore that too.

And I'm sure you go to all kinds of social gatherings where you use your depression as a conversation starter, don't you? Of course you do. I do it all the time too! lol

@bridgie101 i said take into consideration for a reason. you should understand how hard it is to make yourself do something you don't want to. i love all the recommendations. it gives me somethig to think about and i sure as hell will use almost all of them. so thank you for commenting for whatever reason you did. i didn't need your comment. it makes me feel worse. have a good day.

@heidiclark girl YES. thank you. i don't understand the depression career either but we all have our opinions! thanks for validating me. :)

You're welcome sweetie, You're going to make it!

I have been told this many a times I have lost count...sometimes its not about wanting to be with people...many a times I feel better when I am alone and enjoy my own company....I have been on both sides of the boat and I have had a lot of heartaches on the other side w/social life...loneliness I not an issue...it's only one when we make it one...