I'm having a similar problem with a guy. I have to follow your strand to see what people say. I all I can tell you is what I have been trying to do. I call my sister or a friend to get my mind going elsewhere. Run an erand for no reason. I have to keeping telling myself I deserve better. It's like trying to quit smoking.... it's hard but there's an end to this bad boy bs. I have hope for both of us.

hi bummin looks like its just the 2 of us lol. i dont know if ya like me but am mad with myself, this man is rejecting me & using me but i still hope that we get 2gether. but ya right i am going 2 keep him out my life & do other things 2 keep myself going. Thank you for ya reply & maybe we can be strong 2gether x big hugs x

Hi lovebug,

Sweetheart, it sounds like you need to cut this man out of your life.
I know how hard this will be with him being your neighbor.
But It CAN be done. I became very good friends with my next door neighbor twenty years ago. (1987) He used my weaken state of mind to bully me mercilessly. He ridiculed me on a daily basis. Being depressed and vulnerable, I took his abuse for YEARS.
I thought I deserved it. When I got well, I went to this man and confronted him. He said that he was "Just Kidding"...................
Now the things he said to me were beyond cruel. He told me I was Ugly. That I was Fat. (I was about 100lbs and battling an ED)
He told me I was useless and A Horrible mother. (God, THAT hurt)
He told me I was not "Good Enough" to be his friend.
He told me not to bother praying because God would never waste
His time on someone like me............................
Anyway, I recovered from my depression, And I have not spoken to this man for almost two years. Even though he still holds out hope that I will forgive him.........
I will never let him into my life again.
Sweetheart, I know that my situation is different from yours because I was not romantically involved.
BUT...........The pain of being hurt still remains.
You CAN eliminate him from your life even with him living so close to you.
I really hope that you do that. Because he will keep hurting you.

((((((HUGS))))))

wow, Wally has been thru a lot with this type of thing love....you can do it, I believe you can! Get with Wally and let her help you get yourself out of this useless situation, I know its tearing you down too. I really believe you can do this!!

Hi wallybear i think somtime its hard 2 understand why people hurt other people as where 2 nice & would not do it 2 others. my neighbor is very nice 2 me & makes me feel special till he gets me in 2 his bed then he just ejects & tells me hes finished. its only happend twice but i thought it would change but i come 2 relise that hes only being nice when he wants sex then hes not a nice person after. i can only think am doing it as am feeling low with this depression & a bit of attention is good but the rejection after is tearing me 2 bits so i told him how much hes hurt me & that it will never happen again. so now i just got 2 keep strong & keep away. thank you 4 ya reply xx love & hugs xx

wally u had a hard time with this neighbor & am glad u got out of it as u deserve better friend. i hope i can find the strengh like u did. thank you xx

Sweetheart, you deserve SO much better.

Please don't let him use you.
Be strong and look elsewhere for love.

Best Wishes To You Dear Girl ;-)