I can understand where you are coming from. my husband has gone off for a holiday this weekend to barcelona having just come back from a weekend in holland last month and next month he is off to thailand for a week. i seem to be in constant demand by him for childminding our 2 children... whom i love dearly but need some time away from too esp. when they fight like cat and dog!!!!

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is there anyone that can come to your house and stay with you to help out, or just to chat? any chance of getting a babysitter? it sounds like you need some time to relax. i hope you get that time and feel better!

thanks ireland80 the problem is I have a special needs child and there is noone who can handle him. thank you for caring.

thanks machina sometimes I just need to hear that Im doing an ok job.thankyou.

You are in a tough spot. I dont really have any words that is going to help your situation. I just want you to know that I am here for you anytime you need to talk or vent or cry or whatever.

some men can be very selfish without even realizing they are.bringing up kids is the hardest job in the world and he probably wont realize that til hes done a stint on his own.make plans to have a weekend away on your own when his training is over-even if money is tight you deserve it.everybody needs to recharge now and again.and dont fret over the kids fighting its what they do for entertainment not to get you down!!!ive found that when my 5year old twins areat their worst if i step back and ask them for a cuddle everything calms down and it makes me feel so good inside too.

nine years ago after being unemployed for nearly a year my husband moved to St Louis for a job. I thought I would be going as soon as our house sold. It would be six months later before I moved to St Louis. I was getting calls from bill collectors both at home and at work. My saving grace was good friends that would say let's go for a cup of tea or coffee. I could not afford much else. My kids were off at college. My husband worked in the oil industry for years so when my kids were small I was the chief cook and bottle washer so to speak. Hubby was home sometimes on the weekend but most of the time he was in the field. I joined a baby sitting co op which allowed me time for me. I belonged to a church circle in which my kids could play with other kids and I did sip n sew and my kids could play with other kids( I just sipped don't know how to sew) That seem to cut down on the fighting.As for the money one can't squeeze blood from a turnip. I know it is hard but think when he is trained and working it will become easier.