First off, you do not want to scare him off with your issues.. j/k.. I think that one of the hardest things I have ever had to work on was rebuilding self-esteem from my childhood and relationships. It is going to take babysteps getting you there. I think reading up on self-esteem was a help for me. Also counseling. You can not start comparing yourself with others. Once we do this, it is always a downer for you and the one involved.. Good luck with this..

Hey there first of all be glad that your happy together. Second of all be glad your happy together. Guess what all that matters is that your happy together. If he likes you then you can suck in the sack and it wont matter. Not to mention maybe he wonders if hes good enough for you.I am glad you can find someone your happy with. Lots of people cant-congrats!

i think you need to start focusing on the positive things about yourself. try and think about what your fiance loves about you, what your family loves about you, your friends. even ask them if your unsure. try giving yourself a bit more 'me' time and treat yourself by to going to a spa, or get your hair done or your nails done, new clothes etc. it's little things like that that can make you feel better about yourself. good luck :)

I've been through alot of that negativity. Just remember that what matter's most is your opinion of yourself. Quit beating yourself up and being negative about what kind of lover you are good or bad. Don't compare yourself with your ex's girlfriends. There's alot of self-help books on getting your confidence back. I recently bought one called, "The Ultimate Secrets of Total Self-Confidence" by Dr. Robert Anthony
You might want to check it out. I am sure that you can do it!

I have had self esteem issues since very early on, like the 6th grade as far as I remember. My advice to you would be to take comfort that you are with him now and not anybody else. He choose you so that means something just in itself. He isn't with any of his ex's now and he is with you so you are the one he loves and wants. That should make you feel good just thinking about that. As far as you go please try not to beat up on yourself to much. I know from my experiance that is a very hard thing not to do, I still do it all the time. No matter what happened in your previous marriage, no matter how you were put down or beat up on emotionally take comfort that you are a fabulous human being and deserve to be fully happy, as we all do. Life deals us bad hands all the time, it is up to us how we play those hands. Learn from the mistakes that were made in your previous marriage and apply that knowledge to your new relationship. He choose you over anybody else.
Secondly I also think that doing things for yourself can help you feel better about yourself and help you not think about the negitive thoughts. New haircut, super clean house or car can make you feel good to. Maybe a new outfit. Go sit at the local clothing department store and have one of the make-up girl people do your make-up. Things like that can help jump start your thought process.
I wish you all the luck in your new relationship. bad things happen to all of us, but the bad things are not what defines us.

21-year unhappy marriage = insecurity complex. Marriage now over. Done. Gone. Past. New beginning. Focus only on the good. Celebrate. Exclaim his glory and yours as well. You are what you are and the evidence is he is pleased. He is good, you are good, life is good. You do not have the shortcomings the exes have. You are better for him than they can be or they would not be exes.
This may not be overcome with "logic" or "rationality". Seek professional therapy and protect your good fortune. This would probably be very, very good for you in many areas of your life.

I was so much like you a few years ago, but as I get older and benefit from counselling, I am seeing that I am totally unique and have a unique contribution to bring to the world. You do too! The negative thoughts you are experiencing are depression's voice. Recognize it as such and when a neg. thought comes, try with all your heart to realize that this is only the depression talking and these are lies and false beliefs. Needless to say, I haven't beat this yet, but I am on my way, I think. Try not to put yourself down while he's around. People find it difficult to know how to respond to this and it makes them uncomfortable. Concentrate on doing things that you know you are great at and as the accolades and pride in yourself grow, so will your self-esteem. Best of luck and God bless.