Separate yourself from these people for just a little while, if that is the only way you will see you are worth something. Take time to love yourself. Take yourself out to dinner, or to the movies. I guess what I mean is, go on date nights by yourself. Sorry if that sounds weird. But this is exactly what I did to make me see my importance in myself. I'm not saying seclude yourself, what I'm saying is learn to enjoy yourself. Because when you can see that all you NEED is yourself, then you can see that you are a wonderful, unique person, worth as much as any other soul in our universe :)

HUGS

Do you defend yourself when these people put you down? It's sad your boyfriend doesn't say anything, but YOUR voice is really the one that should be striking back. Tell them how they make you feel. Never curl in, please. Part of accepting oneself is having strength and courage to defend YOU.

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I remember all to well being your age and dealing with the crap that goes with depression. Unfortunately, you are being forced to grow up early in having to deal with something you shouldn't have to deal with until you get older.

The sad truth is, most people at your age have no idea what depression is and know even less when it comes to dealing with it. Most teenagers have trouble accepting something they don't understand.

I think Friend19 has the right idea in separating yourself from them and finding your own self worth. Don't let others be what you judge yourself by, you set your own standards and stay with them.

If this helps any, by the time you turn 25, some of those people may have their own issues to deal with and they will have a better understanding of you.

Self-educate. Continue to read self-help material as you are here. It'll arm you with a vocabulary to counter those people's opinions. And, yes, distance yourself from those "friends" as much as possible. And physically exercise. Works for me!

You're in high school. People in high school can be so shallow and cruel.

You need to separate yourself from the negative people in your life. Do you live on your own?.

I had to distance myself from all of my family for that reason.
As for the boyfriend, you need a new one that will lift you up instead of bringing you down. I lived with one like that, I think it is their way of controlling us. Man, getting away from him made me feel so much better about myself and life!!!!!!! You'll need support, so stick with the group and try to find friends who are positive and a good influence on your life.

Oh, I checked your page and your are only 16. You can't leave your family yet. But, you can keep in mind that you will be able to be on your own in a few years. Hang in there, stay with the group, and there are a lot of books on positive thinking etc. Have you seen a doctor?

There is no way you can be a loser at 16. You may not believe it but you have yet to start living. Quit listening to them. When they start, just block what you hear out of your mind. It does not matter what they think of you, what matters is what you think of yourself.

And again, I would get rid of the boyfriend, you need someone that can lift you up and keep you there.

Translate the crap you are hearing into "blah, blah, blah" and ignore them You're only sixteen and you have only begun. Keep also that most boys aren't "done yet". They are still growing up. I know grown men like that and they can be a royal pain in the butt. Hang in there kiddo.

I wish I could distance myself from those people but I can't really when they're everywhere I go, even home.
I do stand up for myself, but that doesn't matter to them. These people know I have issues and do their best to exploit them. I've seen therapists, I've talked to people, I've been through a load of self help stuff, I've taken anti-depressants, but after nearly 7 years of all this shit and nothing seeming to help at all I don't really know what I can do.
My boyfriend means well I think and he's always there for me to talk to and everything, it's just when his friends have a go that he doesn't do anything because he says it won't help. He doesn't seem to realise that I don't care if it doesn't make them stop, I just want him to show that he doesn't agree with them.

First and foremost is that you have to stand up for yourself. Don't rely on anyone, not anyone, to do it for you. You are not a failure, you know you aren't a failure, and if you don't know that you aren't, I am going to tell you that you aren't right now. We put negative thoughts into our heads and that is where they stay until we find a way to reverse them. I was married to a man who when he drank, he was really cruel. He would talk about himself for hours and then my turn. He would tell me that I would never amount to anything, and I bought into that crap. For a long time I believed what he said because he was so good at so many things. By seeing him as some kind of Einstein, I missed out on all the wonderful qualities that I have acquired. Now it's your turn to do the same. I know,and you know deep in your heart that you are not a waste of space. You are not pathetic, nor are you a failure. Don't let people treat you with disdain when they are the people who try their hardest finding fault in your life instead of fixing the faults in theirs. Many hugs. Gramybear

I'm not sure what to say here, but all the other comments, I don't agree with entirely, not that they aren't great ideas, but I don't know about you, but me I can't cope without others, I care about other people and not myself. Do not try to do it on your own, now that said, even just talking on here, having friends online, that can work, not for me, I still need people around me who I feel care, but something I have found is that, they are there, maybe they don't care a ton, but, I'm sure someone see you as a good person, I know I do. They're right, ignore the bad people, but look for some good people, good people do exist, even if they are harder to find. And understand that your boyfriend is flawed, of course he is, he's human. It can be very hard to stand up for people, especially against there 'friends'. I can't say I understand it completely, because I would get mad for you very easily, but not everyone is like that, if he's better alone, then get with him alone, I'm not saying he's right, but if you need someone there for you, be with the part of him that is, and kind of get away from the part that isn't, when he's with his friends. And I know how hard it can be to distance yourself, especially since at least with me, when I am alone, my brain can be just as bad, if not worse, than everyone else. But if your boyfriend is good alone, keep trying to have him hang out with you away from everyone else, try to only be with the people who care as much as possible. And look, the people here care, I care, if you every need to talk I'm here, if you need to escape, I don't know if you have a means of getting online, while being away from all the bad people, but look for that way, if you have to just sit some random place with free wifi, do it. The main thing is, get away from the bad people, find and be with the good people, occupy your time as much as possible away from the bad, whatever you have to do to make that happen. You are not a failure and you are good enough and not a waste of space, not pathetic, etc. You are definitely better than me, if you want me to explain how I know your better just message me. And if you can't see that yourself because everyone else says otherwise, then let me be the person to tell you your not, I care about you, I care about people very easily, and it makes me very upset about all the things you have going on in your life. One last thing, you say the people that are supposed to love you tell you your a failure, let me tell you a secret, everyone should love you, but they don't because people are flawed, maybe they just don't show it or maybe they are jerks, but assuming you are including your boyfriend in that, from my observation, I don't know if it's right but, he doesn't think your a failure or anything else, maybe he doesn't care as much as he should, or maybe he does but he lets his fear rule him, but I don't think he thinks those things, and if he does, lose him. Seriously, you don't need that, you need someone to actually care.

"Support Groups: Depression, Teen Anxiety, Loneliness, Self-Injury, Insomnia"

Clinical depression REQUIRES medical treatment. If you are not getting any, figure out how to get it.

Anxiety, if chronic, must be treated medically. If you are not getting any, figure out how to get it.

Self-Injury is a serious complex and needs medical treatment. Figure out how to get it.

Insomnia, if chronic, needs medical treatment.

Without treatment for these conditions, your situation will remain complex and something beyond what you can work out on your own.

Very well said and very true Wandering Vet. I hope your post helps. I hope all the posts help in some way or the other.

Thank you to everyone for all your advice,
and to WanderingVet, I am getting medical treatment for my insomnia and depression and it doesn't work. Drugs just don't work for some people and it seems I'm one of those people.

It is cheesy, but love yourself - do what you want to do, be who you want to be, live how you want to live.

You know that thing, that you always wanted to do, but were afraid, well.....


Do it.

What have you got to lose?


If people don't support you, that is their problem, if people don't care, it is about them, not you. Enjoy life for yourself and I hope you find yourself happiness - and hopefully bring them with you.

I know for me, if someone turns up with an obsession - I love art, I make art, I love to create this because... then I will love to hear more.... you will find these people when you try to find happiness for yourself.

>>Drugs just don't work for some people and it seems I'm one of those people.

I doubt you are ENTIRELY drug resistant ... maybe, but I doubt it.

In any case ... there is 'treatment' of other types ... besides drug therapy ... and without EFFECTIVE treatment .. you can't overcome these problems. Furthermore, you need a pkg treatment plan that addresses all the issues ... they feed on each other ... and it is very complicated. You need a global plan that takes it ALL on.