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hopeless romantic - never finding love

purplecat
purplecat

Hey everyone - 


New to this group.  A little about me:  I'm retired military, very pretty, well establised in my career, grounded with a great personality/always smiling (always crying in private).  I'm reaching out b/c I just can't cope anymore.  I'm tired of being rejected in relationships for whatever reasons, which most of the time I'm left wondering "why".  I struggle with asking myself theoretical question:  How do you find love and happieness within yourself when all you find is rejection from men?  My father rejected me and all the relationships that I've encountered ended with rejection.  I'm so tired of the dating sites (tried them all) and I'm not the type to sit at bars.  I take part in physical activities (gym, 5ks, 1/2 marathons) but I'm very timid in starting conversations (unless someone else starts). I'm reaching out for mental health counseling (this friday is my 1st appt).  I will not take pills to hide my emotions.  I'm rambling....thanks for reading.

jdark87
jdark87
Hello. Sometimes I feel the same. It takes effort to talk to people. Just know that people feel the same way and it's hard to break the ice. I'm sure you'll find someone special someday. I'm here to talk in case you need a penpal.
YZO1R
YZO1R
I'm 28 and no guy has ever paid me any attention, asked me out, or even told me I'm pretty. So I understand what you're going through completely.

I've never heard of anyone meeting any real people or connections on dating sites. Crisis Text Line recommended meetup.com to meet people but I haven't tried that yet. Maybe it might work better for you.
MikeOnTheMic
MikeOnTheMic
I'm no romantic, nor do I enjoy working out. But I do know that if you expect failure, you are more likely to experience it. I don't know you, but if deep down, unconciously you expect something; It usually happens. Reasess your requirements and standards. Are your standards too high? Are you unconciously drawn to men with a particular negative characteristic? You say you're pretty, that suggests you have confidence. Make the first move. Maybe you are too pretty and guys are scared to approach you. I have plenty of male friends that are afraid to approach women in fear of being called a creep or not being the right "type."
dyinginside35
dyinginside35
I feel your pain. I cant find love within myself and everyone says i need to before a man can love me. I dont know the meaning of self love. I could care less about money etc i just want love. Im 35 and all my friends are married with kids it hurts. You start to think something is wrong w you. Im here for you
dyinginside35
dyinginside35
I match w guys on tinder but im too afraid to talk to them or meet them cuz i know theyll laugh at me or reject me.
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
You can email me. I like military women.
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