Xmas can lose its appeal a little for everybody past childhood. The societal mold is definitely in your head. I think a little less than 50% of U.S. adults are married. You are still young, Don't worry and don't stress. You will find what you're looking for. Good luck.

Interesting statistic thank you :)

I actually had to look it up. You are fine. Have a great Christmas. Parents and a brother are great things.

The holidays can be a very difficult time for people, I too have lost loved ones around this time of year. I totally understand wanting nothing more than to spend more time with those that we love and miss. As far as societal mold, I don't think there is such a thing as that with marriage, or kids. First, you are so young and have a lot of time to enjoy life and find your true love and life long friend. Second, you have people in your life that love you, your parents, brother, and I am sure your many friends and lastly I would say don't let anyone dictate to you how you live your life, especially a societal misconception. You decide when and who you will be with,. You decide when and how many children you will have. Keep your chin up! There is someone out there for you, things don't happen according to our plan, when the time is right it will happen. Have faith. I will leave you with this quote: We are not given a good life or a bad life. We are given a life. It is up to us to make it good or bad.

Any change is better than no change. A bad idea is better than no idea.

It really doesn't matter what you do so long as you don't ossify in place in a rictus of indecision. Write your choices on paper, stick them on a dart board. Throw a dart.

Just do it. Don't let your dreams be dreams.

:)

I’m sorry you’re feeling so down this season. It’s not unusual to feel blue around the holidays, especially when we’ve had disappointments and losses in our lives. I don’t know if this will help at all, but I’m remembering a message I heard at church a few years ago: Comparison robs us of joy. And it does. When I read your post, I couldn’t help but notice all you've compared yourself to. I’m remembering a message I heard at church a few years ago: Comparison robs us of joy. And it does. I’ve done the same thing. I’m 53 and never married. I used to struggle with that, a lot. My life hasn’t turned out as I had planned. When you’re a kid you think you’ll grow up, get married, and have kids. I’m guessing most of us thought that. A few years back, maybe 10 or 12 years ago, a friend suggested I stop watching movies and shows that made me wish for things I didn’t have. So I did. I stopped watching movies and shows that caused my mind to wonder. Amazingly I began to notice a contentment I’d never felt before. I’m enjoying my life…even in the midst of unemployment. Christmas this year will be about spending time with my family, my parents and my sister. We’re going to enjoy what we have, not miss what we don’t have. Sometimes I find myself still thinking about the what if’s…but lately my pastor’s words come to mind when I do: Comparison robs us of joy. So I hope, and will pray, that you can find joy this Christmas as you think about the things you DO have.

Good luck, holidays can be hard for many people. I help with Christmas delivery of toys to foster facilities and even in the toughest of times, and despite many things I do wrong, I became happy knowing I was making a positive contribution.

I gave up on trying to find that right one, cause all in all, happiness is uncommon, while emptiness and nothingness is far more common. happiness comes and goes just like misery, but there certainly seems to be more misery out there than happiness. I've decided that being unhappy or lonley is normal.