First you're articulate passionate and not a piece of ass. What he did was crappy BUT that false hope got you to be free from an abusive so called relationship. You need a good friend, without expectations.
I've been hurt recently and it was LTR and it wasn't abusive. She just cheated.
If you need to vent, PM mev

Sweetie no matter what any stupid man (sounds like boys to me) think no woman is just a piece of ass. You have the confirmation you need. You are strong enough to leave. you were ready to leave and there are plenty of real men out there that would be grateful to be able to kiss the ground you walk on. I am in a crappy relationship too and I know its easier said than done because if it was so easy I would have left a long time ago, but if you made the effort to meet up with this guy, then you can do anything! Good luck and god bless

Get away from your boyfriend, have the confidence to feel you do not need to have a boyfriend to be validated, and look for someone nice. There's a whole lot of nice men who are not as smooth as others and may not dress perfectly, and girls overlook them. In contrast, with men and women, there are a small coterie who get the overwhelming amount of attention.

I was with one male family member and at his house, there's a girl hanging around, another somewhere else, at an event, another comes up to him. It just seemed silly for so many women to concentrate on a small group of men and then be disappointed.

I'm not 100% convinced of what is going on here.

If you know you are in 'an abusive relationship' then why are you still in it? I don't mean that in a challenging, attacky way: I mean: figure it out! If you don't feel loved, don't feel valued, feel treated badly, why do you stay?

If you don't believe in the man you are with, then you need to leave him. And that's the first thing you do. Finding some other guy to latch onto to escape guy no. 1 is not okay. It's not okay for you, it's not okay for the current boyfriend, it's not okay for the future boyfriend. You certainly won't get any respect from anyone if you do it.

Always leave one guy and give yourself space and time to readjust before you go looking for the next guy. That's the honest thing to do.

If you don't want to feel like a piece of meat you are going to have to stop treating yourself like one.

#toughlove. xx

Perhaps thinking the way out of your current relationship by cheating on your boyfriend wasn't the best idea. If you don't want to be with your boyfriend, then break up with him. You don't have to be with him, nobody can make you, especially if he's abusive toward you.

It is okay to be single and wait for the right guy.

Thats easy for someone to say that isnt in an abusive relationship. Just leaving isnt as easy as it sounds. Were practically married and finacially tangled. There is no way to just leave.

Everyone here has been in an abusive relationship Angelina.

I wouldn't have called what you did cheating: cheating to me is penis enters vagina. But you certainly are leapfrogging from one lily pad to another. And that is only going to do you harm as a person. You have to learn to stand on your own feet, not be carried by one man after another. You're strong. You're an adult. You've got this. There's absolutely no need to cripple yourself in this way.

if you don't want to be with boyfriend no. 1, you need to pack up your gear and go. You disentangle financially. You cut your losses if you have to. You go. You get up on your hind legs and you toddle out the door. Everyone here has done this. Nobody's telling you to do anything they won't or haven't done themselves.

You'll be fine. And you'll develop a kind of self respect that men will smell on you. And they will treat you differently.

You'll be fine.

I second bridgie101. Not saying it's easy to walk away, but I think it's important you do it for yourself and not for another guy. You need to learn how to live on your own before getting into another relationship. You shouldn't let your happiness depend on other people.

Hi AngelinaStreet, I feel for you. I've been in abusive relationships and I believe the messages everyone above are sharing with you are wise. However, I remember the agony of facing the heartbreak and fears of coming to terms with lost dreams, an unmendable, power imbalanced, abusive and self-esteem destroying relationship and the prospects of my future baby growing up without a Father. My boyfriend was physically, emotionally, financially, sexually etc... abusive (subtly in some ways & in my face in others). I left him 6 months pregnant with no forwarding address after he beat me for the 2nd time during. I gave him 1 chance & he blew it. When I returned home to my parents (unmarried, very pregnant & with tail between legs) - I was lucky to find a great social worker and she led me to a domestic violence support group. The other women there shared their stories & I sware it sounded like we were all describing the same man! Regardless of whether these men beat our bodies or abused us in non-physical ways - the results were similar (our self esteem was very effected, which in turn affected the way we perceived reality. We often saw everything as 'my fault' and made silly decisions at times to help with the self esteem or to bury the overwhelming problems (eg: affairs to feel 'wanted' and attractive by/to someone, drugs/alcohol to numb the pain etc...). Sorry I'm raving on so long, I think the message is clear. Once you find the courage to stand and face the mirror & seek the truth in your own eyes & be supportive and fair to yourself - every little worry can be managed 1 x 1. I left everything I had with this guy (except the most precious - my unborn baby's safety and my own). I started again with the support of my family, others did it through community refuges; and I've got to say - I felt a lot better about myself when I did (despite the poverty!). There are safer options there and ways to leave when we are ready. All the best.

Sounds like you need to meet a better class of people. There are many good men in the world who don't simply pick up women for sex. You deserve better than that.

Try looking around at the guys you haven't noticed before. They may not be as cool or as good looking but they might just treat you better. They would sure be happy to talk to you!

You may also think about the vibe you send out. Do you look too sexy? Men who are after a one night stand will swarm all over you if you look like you're into that. If a man flatters you don't trust him.

You want a man who wants you for your personality. He should be attracted to you, but he should value you for more than your appearance alone.

In the end only you can choose the value of your life. You must be willing to say no and be willing to wait for someone better to come along.