Today when he had a fit because I was going to go to my Grandma's birthday party and be in my parents presense again for the third day in a row, I just told him in a very calm manner, "well, it is about my Grandma and her birthday, and her enjoying time with our boys. I would think you would be happy that the boys will go and have a great time. I understand you are disappointed that you can not go, but at least you could think of the boys and my Grandma and how much fun they will have together. That is what this day is all about." He said that it is way to convienient that they plan to do this when they know he can't be there. I said the didn't plan this around you, it had nothing to do with you. It was about Grandma's birthday, and what and when she wanted to do something. She made the decision. You could have come home today if you truely wanted to! You could have called in sick. He didn't like that one. He said you just act like you are glad I can't go and will have a better time with out me. I said today is no about you and I it is about Grandma, I am sorry you can't go, but you are working and chose not to go. He said you didn't act at all disappointed that I was not able to get home last night. I said I am sorry I made you feel that way. He said you could at least have said something like that but you never do, you are so apathetic toward our relationship. It is like you are happier when I am gone and don't realy want to talk to me on the phone. He said tonight, you just don't have anything to say to me, I said I don't know what to say to you. He said we are going to have to set aside some time tomorrow to talk about this. I said yes we will. He went on to try to get me to talk some more, but I just couldn't come up with much of anything. I asked him light questions, but there were long periods of silence. So I said well I have to get the boys to bed and then I am going to go to bed, we can talk about this stuff tomorrow after you get home. He said fine put off for tomorrow what you can do today, as usual. He said I guess I will just see you tomorrow when I get home. I said you can call me in the morning when you get done flying, he said if I have time between running to catch the flight home. I said you can at least call me when you are on your way home from the airport like you usually do, I do want to talk to you. I think he will call me on his way home. He didn't say he loved me when hanging up the phone, so I don't know what that means. He is really upset with me though right now and knows something isn't right. I didn't know what else to do, it took all I had to not tell him that I filed!!!
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