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Hate being "the nice guy"

rianbooyer
rianbooyer

I hate this label. Whenever someone calls me that i cringe. Being nice has gotten me nothing but grief over the years. Employers dont look at you. Women wont date you. Truth is being the nice guy is like being like being called unwantrd by all except when they think they can use you.



I hate feeling like im pissed off at the world. My brain wont shut up tonight about how pathetic i am for being nice to everyone. People dont take you seriously...i hope this is overwith soon i need to sleep.

jannytheresa
jannytheresa
I am sure that you have earned that "label" and I mean that sincerely.
I hope that you will find people who appreciate you for being a kind and caring person. My son is in the same boat as you. He is
kind and caring and a wonderful human being, but he doesn't always get the credit for being this way.
Sometimes it's the obnoxious guys who get all of the credit.
Have faith that your day will come
Community LeaderWanderingVet
WanderingVet
Wait until you try the opposite. Maybe you aren't doing it right. I sure as hell want to tell you that anger is VERY, VERY dangerous. It can destroy the angered's life. It did mine until I quit using it.
Lyla719589
Lyla719589
I completely get it! I don't know why society is so backwards alot of times, but please take this with sincerity. Right when you think being kind is like a cursed blessing, we need kind hearted people to make a damn difference in this world. With that said don't change your kindness for anything, but strive to have the confidence to set boundaries to say "no" to things and people that do not serve you, stay confident to your character despite this bitter world, and know that you will get the very best thing out of life because of what you have put in one way or another
deejayincanada
deejayincanada
People tell me allllll the time that I am way too nice. The same people usually get super offended the second I assert myself LOL
I used to get bent out of shape when people would tell me that, makes me feel like a big pushover...but Id rather be known for being too nice than an arse.
eli_mom
eli_mom
Hi- They are calling you a nice guy because they see something different in you. They see you as a kind, gentle and caring person. Stay being nice but always set boundaries.

Please keep us posted, God bless.
Froggie83
Froggie83
I can lie to you and say you are the opposite, will that help?

I live with someone who is the opposite of nice. And i can definitely say i would rather live with a nice guy like you than live with the %@$& i am stuck with.
ReaDyO
ReaDyO
Hey there Rianbooyer I love what Lyla said and she is very right. In Mexico we have a vulgar saying, "Soy bueno pero no pendejo." (I am nice but I am not a dumbass.) Learn to say NO, learn to be confident in who you are and do not doubt yourself. By the way doubt is much more different than reflection. So do reflect on yourself and your belief but do not doubt. If you can't sleep take 1/3 of a large container with ice and the other 2/3 with water. Put your face in it for 3 seconds and I guarantee you'll get this out of your head. Go lay down, put on some head phones and listen to this meditation.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0TjLnbSR5Rs&t=756s

Tomorrow when you wake up nice and refreshed listen to this one below for about 15 minutes a day for 11 days. Or as long as you wish. Discover what you like and finish a project through. It builds confidence.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQkkyp7cQeg&t=595s
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