Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
Two days ago my wife's uncle who raised her died. In my view this was a great man. Even though he was not a blood relative I found myself getting depressed over his death.
I did manage to snap right back and am doing well. I do not handle death very good. I dread the funeral
JP
I did manage to snap right back and am doing well. I do not handle death very good. I dread the funeral
JP
Before my brother died, I never really faced death at all. Losing someone so close, who was also such a good person, and so young (he passed at 40) was beyond devastating. I lost it. I went off the deep end. Even now, I fight very hard to keep my sanity and avoid crumbling to pieces at the slightest provocation. But, you scrape yourself off the pavement, pull yourself up by your bootstraps, you get brave, you become more openly loving, and allow new people into the fold (of our broken hearts) to replace the one who departed. My sister's got a wonderful new infant son now, and I love him dearly. That love is helping warm up the cold, cold holidays.
If you need to fall apart and cry during the funeral, go right ahead. God knows everyone else will! I was fit to be tied during my brother's eulogies. Couldn't stand it. No way was I in any shape to get up there and say something, and, thankfully, wasn't asked to. But the tears just rolled when his friends got up and talked about him.
Death helps us appreciate life more preciously. Helps us be a little more humble. Helps us prioritize what is important in life, loving each other, and good health.
Exercise, also, has helped me build up that internal strength, as well as helps me face those hurting feelings and push through them, to become a better, stronger, more bravely loving person. I'm facing down social situations with ease that I never would've dreamed I was capable of in the past. When you face death, everything else is cake, y'know what I mean? I don't CARE about rejection, feeling anxious in social situations, or any of that crap I used to care about. I simply forge ahead with my feelings, and try to exercise good sense when listening to others'.
You sound like me, ipf, a bit of a social hermit. What is required now is social bravery, being proactive with going out and making new friends. But push through and experience the pain of the loss first.
Exercise, and get plenty of sleep. Try to DREAM about the dearly departed. Dreams have really helped me. When I finally embraced my brother in some very deep dreams, it was profoundly beautiful and completely evaporated whatever tension I was feeling. I know he's OK, and I know I can come visit him and hang out with him on the other side anytime, in my dreams.
Hit me up here on Live Chat if you'd like to talk further, brother.