I’m so sorry you are going through this. But I guess I’ll be thing you can be thankful for is now you know and are no longer in the dark.

Now you need to think what are you going to do. What do you want, need, and what are the next steps.

Of course you will have ups and downs, moments of sadness and anger and this is where maybe going to see someone a professional can help as this is not something nice to be going through at all and can take allot of healing and time to get back on your feet both mentally emotionally all the other stuff you will have to endure.

But we are also here to vent to whenever you need. I can’t say I have any idea what your going through as I’ve never dealt with this myself but I’m sure your in good hands with support from others xx

I am very sorry you are going through this; I know that the pain inflicted is great. (I was at one time, before sobriety and into early sobriety, a betrayer.) Professional help, either marriage counseling or individual therapy, can help sort things out. I also found that there are many books about affairs, including the also quite marriage-destroying so-called "emotional affair." On this site, in the Infidelity group, there are many helpful posts.

ouch. Double ouch. Hmm, can I ask how long you guys were married?

So ... are you going to divorce him .... with a huge alimony clause??

Take his wages...zing.

However, I would like to point a positive note, I noticed from your profile that you are in your twenties? So, you can start again. I know that it must hurt though.

Things got a little violent. Cops were called. I’m really scared. He might have been arrested. Idk. Today is our second year anniversary. I need to talk to people. I’m having a super hard time. Divorce is definitely happening and alimony is happening most likely...

Ah... I might be going to jail too.... that’s where he is right now...

Why are you going to jail ? Please clarify

There was violence. But I don’t think anything is going to happen to me. He will probably just get kicked out of the military..

1. Get a good divorce lawyer.
2. Have him/her file for divorce.
3. Go for all the alimony you can get.
4. If there has been physical violence, check into a restraining order.

No children involved .... right????

No children. I have a meeting on tuesday

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underland I'm sorry that you re going thru a tuff time. It is good to read that there are no children involved. Have you tried to talk to him. Possibly talking to a marriage counselor would shed some light. Hugs of encouragement.

sounds rough. take care of yourself. maybe for the best over time.