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The past week or so it seems like every day is getting harder and harder to bear. Every day I get worse and I can't seem to stop it this time.
I just finished university and am now in career limbo. I'm turning 25 in a couple of months and I just feel like my life is no where near where I thought it would be by this age. The whole marriage and kids thing is not something I ever wanted by this age, but I'm pretty much the only person from my home town that isn't married or has kids, and as for my friends from the city, most of them are a few years younger than me or else they have started their careers (in the case of some of them, they are both younger than me AND farther along in their careers).
I just feel like such a loser. I know I shouldn't, and I know everyone does things in their own time but I wonder what people honestly think about me sometimes... like really.. I'm 25, I've only just finished a bachelors degree which I took 5 years to finish after already waiting til I was in my 20s to go back for, the longest relationship I've ever had was four fucking months, and I have nothing at all to show for my 25 years on earth... I'm a textbook fucking loser and it's killing me. I've always thought of myself as smart and capable, as ambitious and going somewhere in life.. and I still really do believe and hope that my life is going somewhere but right now I feel like I'm at a standstill. I'm starting to question who I am and who I want to be. I can't even give a straight answer when people ask me what I want to do for a living or where I see myself in 5 years. I'm tired of being single, to the point where it's driving me fucking nuts, but I can't be bothered to settle on just anyone and if history is any indication, it's damn near fucking impossible to find someone who suits me. I feel like I'm just bound to be alone. It would be one thing if I had a career to show for it, but I don't. I'm just alone and doing nothing worthwhile.
I just finished university and am now in career limbo. I'm turning 25 in a couple of months and I just feel like my life is no where near where I thought it would be by this age. The whole marriage and kids thing is not something I ever wanted by this age, but I'm pretty much the only person from my home town that isn't married or has kids, and as for my friends from the city, most of them are a few years younger than me or else they have started their careers (in the case of some of them, they are both younger than me AND farther along in their careers).
I just feel like such a loser. I know I shouldn't, and I know everyone does things in their own time but I wonder what people honestly think about me sometimes... like really.. I'm 25, I've only just finished a bachelors degree which I took 5 years to finish after already waiting til I was in my 20s to go back for, the longest relationship I've ever had was four fucking months, and I have nothing at all to show for my 25 years on earth... I'm a textbook fucking loser and it's killing me. I've always thought of myself as smart and capable, as ambitious and going somewhere in life.. and I still really do believe and hope that my life is going somewhere but right now I feel like I'm at a standstill. I'm starting to question who I am and who I want to be. I can't even give a straight answer when people ask me what I want to do for a living or where I see myself in 5 years. I'm tired of being single, to the point where it's driving me fucking nuts, but I can't be bothered to settle on just anyone and if history is any indication, it's damn near fucking impossible to find someone who suits me. I feel like I'm just bound to be alone. It would be one thing if I had a career to show for it, but I don't. I'm just alone and doing nothing worthwhile.
I didn't graduate till I was 30 so you have 5 years on me... its sounds you are really hitting a low and can't see the good things in your life.. or should I say see the potentials in your life.. you just completed 5 years of really hard work so kudos to you for that
what would be your ideal job? is there any way to get a foot in to the field you want to work in? Studying for a degree is very focused and time sensitive so when its over its kinda like we are in limbo
I hope you can feel better about yourself soon
i know that me telling you that you are young isn't going to help, but it really is the truth. you are young. you have years to find a husband if that's what you want. in fact if you want, join a dating web site and start dating to rule out what you what you dont want in a guy and find out what you do like and think about what you do want in a career.
you don't have to know it all exacftly right now. you're only 25 years old. at least you want a career down the line. some people don't even want that. at least you have some drive and you are a nice person. you matter, period.
also, you are on a depression forum so u r prone to this illness, so some of the talking is not from your heart it is from the disease..which can be treatable, through talking with us here, a therapist and medicine. do you have access to these things? you deserve treatment. k, pm me anytime. hugs my friend. u know ur one of my peeps.
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