Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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NeedAdvice2013 08/30/2018

I will try and be brief….as possible….

I have battled depression ALL of my life!!!! (now 51…) Been on EVERY anti depressant under the sun…(I have Chronic Depression) been to 21 different mental health…”so-called professionals”…who did nothing but charge me mega $$$$$$ and use their stupid CBT techniques…(CBT is insane! It takes AWAY from your issues instead of helping them! Their theory is: “Well…you are burning up=literally---no help available…but it is drizzling rain—so focus on that…) I have been Inpatient twice---due to two suicide attempts…

I hate life and I hate myself! Always have on both counts!

One main issue is: I tried for ages to build a nice body—I worked out…ate right---had a trainer….even did steroids (which messed me up more) and NEVER could “get there”!!! Google of Greg Valentino or Ronnie Coleman….this is “the look” I so wanted….but could not get!

Since a child…I have ALWAYS wanted to look like someone else…ANYONE else but ME! I always see other guys who have “the look” and I have crap! I am ashamed to take my clothes off and shower….and even more ashamed to be seen in public with clothes on!!!! It is a disgrace and an embarrassment to have been born like this! My face is also riddled with acne scars….

You know…all other guys…. …have muscles…thick hair-----they party thru college (I worked my way thru) and when they get out..Boom! They get opportunities slung at them! The crap that comes so easily for others never even happened for me…in spite of all my wasted effort, time, and energy!!!

Every female I have been in a relationship with…I felt inadequate/insecure/unworthy…and when we would go out and I would see a guy who has “the look” I could sense she wanted him……Face is acne scar ridden----But I know my lot in life is to make others feel good about who they are

Please I do not want to hear personality matters---tried that----I have learned to accept being alone---just cannot accept why life gave me such a raw deal……..

Please no bs about "well I have other gifts" NO I do not!

Besides--I have had to suffer thru with this body---why could I not ever make it acceptable? Why do other guys attain what I NEVER could!!!!!! Heck I do not/never did want a million bucks or to be rich and famous---just self esteem filled-----but as I said, no such luck.......

My only thing that keeps me going--is I am 51 now---so my "sentence" here on Earth is at least 80% over---hopefully more!!! It will be completely over when I've reached my limit (fyi see my last journal post----)

StayStrong23 09/03/2018

Dude. I am totally sorry you feel like such a failure. No one should have to endure what you have gone through. No one should. Unfortunately, people do. There is something else you can do besides meds and therapy and CBTs (?) that won't cost you a dime. PM me if you are interested. If not, no sweat. Something you might want to check out thought is finding somewhere to volunteer. There is something uplifting in doing that. If you don't like interacting with people, animal shelters are always looking for people to help out. And animals are great, especially abandoned ones. They don't care what kind of body you have or what your face looks like. They don't care about your job or how much money you make. They don't care about past relationships. They just love for you to be with them. It cheers them up, and it will cheer you up too. And you never know. You might just find someone there with a shared interest who likes you for who you are and not for who you think you should be. What have you got to lose?

ajan88 09/04/2018

be stronger..be brave..you are overthinking it..first love yourself..you are not alone..everyone is here to help you..we are helping each other..everyone's life is not 100% satisfied..we don't care who you are..or what you look like..we love you..you deserve it..change your thinking pattern & you'll get everything..try to do some meditation when u feel depressed..learn mindfulness meditation online & be happy

KandiKane1 09/13/2018

I have no easy answers. We all have our lack of self-esteem and want to look like "someone" we think looks great. We are all God's children. We did not ask to be who we are but he has given each of us our own unique gifts. Whether it's being tall, short, attractive, unattractive, smart, not so smart ( whatever that is supposed to mean), etc...We need to harness the gifts that we are given and make the best of them. Self harm will not make things better. It only compounds the problem. Have you spoken to someone in the church? I am sure that you have many positive qualities that you are not addressing nor accepting. Please try to write down things that are positive, talk to REAL friends who care and appreciate you, and continue to live a life that will one day bring a smile to your face and a song to your heart. I truly hope and pray that this helps.

NeedAdvice2013 12/14/2018

WanderingVet--KMA

NeedAdvice2013 12/14/2018

WanderingVet----KMA

WanderingVet 12/14/2018

so much for advice.

patti22 12/16/2018

Oh, I had to read that twice to get it.

WanderingVet was serious. Might have explained a bit more, but ECT is a real medical procedure and can REALLY help some people who have stubborn, treatment resistant depression.

It is NOT like it used to be. It's not painful. There's nothing mean about it. They will give you something to relax you, put you out for a few minutes, give you some gentle shocks...and it's over.

For some people...it's like a miracle. For others it doesn't work. For a few they lose a few memories, but it's very seldom a big deal.

Fine if you're not interested. But if your depression just won't let up for anything...maybe it's something to talk to your doctor about.

Best of luck, Patti

WanderingVet 12/16/2018

There is also TMS.

crybaby 12/20/2018

I am really sorry if this sounds obvious, and I am sure you have considered this, but you sound like you have bdd.......body dysmorphia disorder........I do not know any of the treatments for this condition........but if you are not in contact with others with this condition I really would

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