guess you just need to pick the right people. there are pretty hurtful people out there or selfish ones. I stay away from the people that cuss, make fun of others, gossip. usually you can find good friends just passing by. you learn to spot a lie, don't like that but sometimes people tell lies for other reasons like embrassment ( spelled wrong I know :( ) don't give up just learn to spot the right people kinda like dating

Thanks jade. It is good to avoid those type of people. I'd like to think I'm okay at picking the right people. I think I am just too sensitive.

I think I am being overly sensitive today.

sorry you got hurt but it happens to all of us. Building walls only keeps you isolated, it doesn't stop the pain. Hunker down and lick your wounds and when you're ready rejoin the human race.

Try boundaries. Walls will only isolate. Isolation is the darkroom where I develop negatives. It is not the answer, for me.

Thanks for the reminder that I need people, but I also need healthy boundaries.

I agree try boundaries. I've made the mistake of building up emotional walls. Now it's isolation and trust me it's lonely.

Thanks for the responses. I know isolation all too well unfortunately. It's tough rejoining the land of the living especially when I am so sensitive to everything. I guess I need time to heal my ego.

You are so insightful BobCJ.

I find it difficult to "pick the right people". Sometimes I think I have a good friend, then something happens and I end up thinking, "what...what...what just happened?" You know, when someone you think is a friend says or does something mean.

I figure that's just life. That doesn't make it easy, but I know it's normal for us all to go through these types of things. I guess we just have to get a bit tougher in order to get out there and be with people.

I understand why you have built walls. I have done that too. But I am trying so hard to stop that. I really want some good friends. So I'll keep trying, and I hope you keep trying too, BlueYonder. I'm wishing you well.

I've found that the more I can share of myself, the better it is to determine if I have found a good friend. It's just a difficult process when people are so cautious, that one or both may be overlooking the possibilities and miss out on something special. It's interesting how even online, it doesn't take too long to determine if a friendship is developing. Boundries are great, but you have to look at the glass as half full, instead of half empty.

Everyone will disappoint you at some point in any relationship. However, you have to make an effort to count the good things too. Maybe they aren't as bad as they initially seemed? And if they are bad, maybe they're not the kind of people you should be associating yourself with.