You would know if it is abusive, ... and if it is, make a good plan, talk to a divorce lawyer, and go for it. I wish you well.

Thank you so much that’s my next step but iam so afraid of losing my children he leaves my car keys but he still goes with the garage door keys and I don’t have excess to my car but iam clean it’s been 3 weeks now

I am SO sorry. Your situation sounds familiar. I think wanderingvets advice is great. Talk to a lawyer. I've been in your shoes and know how it feels to have nobody believe you about an abusive husband. Thank God, he delivered me. Ill keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Blessings.

my first marriage was abusive and he was charming.

garage door release.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dIq_PVlf0ls

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wB7MXrhgw_E

It will be worth it in the end after you leave your husband. You'll finally have a happiness you need and he won't be tearing you down anymore

I know it sucks when the world sees the other person as a great guy, and only you know the honest truth. It’s bullshit and I know exactly the frusteration you feel. You end up seeming crazy to people for leaving them, but at the end of the day you do what is best for you. Stay strong babe. You deserve to be happy.

I am so sorry you are in this place. You are absolutely right, mental abuse may not have not tangible scars but it does leave very deep emotional wounds. I pray that you are able to find someone to confide in. Someone who can help you find a place of peace for you and your children. Please do not ever forget that you are perfectly and wonderfully made, and deserve to be treated a such. Try and find someone to reach out to, friends, family, a local church or women's shelter. Lots of prayers coming your way........

Hey there. I'm sorry that you're having to go through this. I do understand how challenging it can be to leave a toxic relationship. Or someone who is abusive. You mentioned that you were afraid of losing your children. As a mother, I can relate to that and the fear that could hold you there because of that.

I hope that you can find someone to confide in. Feel free to share more of your story here with us. Also there may be a support group that you can go to, and you can learn to become stronger there. Support groups helped me to heal and grow and become strong enough to leave a toxic relationship. I also had a couple friends who were right there beside me, encouraging me but still not judging me when I would stay in the relationship out of fear.

Are you able to see a therapist? That's also a great opportunity to work on some issues and get insight from a professional.

It's likely that it will take awhile to heal from the wounds from this relationship, as well as unhealed wounds probably stemming all the way back from childhood. But it's possible!!

I'm not sure what your spiritual background is, but I do encourage you to begin a spiritual journey inside. In and of myself, I was not strong enough to make the changes I needed. But I started taking a little bit of time everyday to get quiet and pray and then listen. Develop a deeper connection with my higher power.

Anyway, wanted to reach out and let you know that you're not alone and we're here to offer you encouragement and support.