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Feeling sad and rejected

whatswrong19
whatswrong19

so back when I was 17, I made the best friends I thought I ever had, and we were really tight for 3 years.  We did wild and crazy things that young people tend to do, and I guess one of those 2 friends is embarressed about it, or thinks I kicked her out of an apartment when in fact my landlord did it.  I dont know, but anyway I've missed her and thought about her and the other one all these years.  I found her on facebook and decided to ask her to friend me, as it wasn't an option on her page for me, and now I can't even look at her page anymore so I guess she blocked me.  It really hurts my feelings.  

TooMuch
TooMuch
My best friend from high school and I had a falling out many years ago. We were close, imagined living together after high school, growing old together, being aunties to each others kids, and all of that. We were friends on facebook several years ago, but she would not respond to emails or letters or messages and eventually the hurt of seeing her there and seeing her interactions with people we knew at the time everything fell apart was just too much and I unfriended. I don't know if I'll ever get over it. Whenever she crosses my mind I feel so sad and wish that even if we can't be friends or even casual acquaintances anymore that I could at least get some closure, because I am not even sure how things fell apart so badly! And I feel wronged. It makes me question our relationship and whether it was ever real to her, and wonder if I am delusional.

Sorry to hijack! I'm having a bit of a mental crisis here myself now! But I am so sorry you are dealing with this. It is so hurtful. I think the best you can do is let it go and don't seek out contact that isn't going to happen (as I sit here looking at said friend's facebook page and trying to resist the urge to friend request)
whatswrong19
whatswrong19
thank you for your reply. it does hurt, and I want to let it go, but here I am ciphering through court calanders, and other places where she would not know I was being nosy about her. I don't understand it. I can guess, well maybe she is mad about this, or maybe that, or maybe because I'm a social worker now, and maybe she had a bad experience with that or something, I had heard she had kids, but there are no photos of any children on her page? I don't know. It just really hurt, and I just want to move on and stop obsessing over it.