I am 63 and have been shy and anxious all my life. My mother didn't understand me. I started seeing a therapist to talk to someone about my problems. Would never have talked to my parents about myself. The therapist helped. And when I was 31 I joined a dating service that found my
husband for me. Actually, I had joined several dating services in my late 20s and early thirties. But this last one was where I finally found someone. So there is still hope. I was 32 when I got married.
Maybe you need to seek therapy and maybe medication for the depression.

BM

I understand you dealing with all of this. Crying for no apparent reason and the feeling of loneliness are possible indicators that you are dealing with depression. Like Tired said. maybe you need to see a Dr. and try some anti-depressants to see if these can help you. I am a lot older than 27 but, I am a loyal and trusting friend.

Thank you. Yes I was in therapy, and taking meds, but my therapist could could longer accept my insurance, and the new one I was referred to is impossible to get an appointment with. I was on meds, but I felt so out of it on them that I completely stopped them. It's been almost a month with nothing, so it's tough

I am so glad so many of you are reaching out. I am 45 and have struggled off and on with my depression most of my life. I have been taking Antidepressants now for about 20 years. I know for a fact I can't survive without them. I become very irrational with my thoughts if I do not take them regularly. And if I skip too frequently and it is near my period I find myself in a circle of suicidal thoughts.

I thought I was totally past that. But after having surgery recently and some other life changes including job change and my youngest child moving out I found myself back in this negative thought pattern again. I am educated and very much aware of what to do for myself but it all can fly out the window if I let myself get too busy and neglect to take my meds.

Friends, family, any kind of social distraction helps me. But when I am at my worst, This site helps me when I can reach out and encourage others it takes my mind off myself.

I hadn't read all the posts. I truly hope you can find a new therapist or doctor or someone that you can trust who will take your insurance. I would encourage you to call the insurance company for a list of providers within your network. Do you have a job? If you do you might check out what benefits there might be for mental health. Some jobs have a program where you can have some therapy appointments paid which could give you the opportunity to increase productivity at work. That is why they offer these and they are supposed to be anonymous.

If one medication doesn't work for you it may be worth trying another medication. Not all meds work great for everyone. Best wishes to you and I am sure you can continue to find support here. I am not great at being consistent though.

Thank you :)

Hi Brittney, what you're experiencin is real , I've dealt with it fir many years just as you've described. The best thing you have done is joined a support group , people who understand what you are feeling and tell you you are not alone in what you're feeling . May I ask you if you have sought out a psychologist talk to, I did many years ago and it was a step in the right direction . Also , he or she may recommend a psychiatrist to see to prescribe medications to help with your mood swings and racing thoughts . I'm on Klonipan because as I said I've suffered with some of the same things you have mentioned . One thing you have to remember is this happens to a lot of people and with professional therapy and possibly medications your mood and outlook will improve . Your heading in a good direction by opening up here and speaking to people who have experienced the same thing . I'm not a reborn Christian but I am catholic and I have my beliefs . I do believe prayer works be it a religious awakening of one's soul or just a way to meditate in a positive manner . Good luck to you and God bless .

Hi Brittney - I appreciate your thoughts and sharing all that. I am new out here too and suffer from several forms of anxiety. Businessman in Texas here and for years hated myself for random sweating, heart palpitations, social nervousness, etc. I finally saw a doctor this week and he diagnosed my axiety and put me on Lexapro. Was the biggest relief. I am going to go to a group therapy session weekly here and also was encourage to join here. I hate that you are going though this and feel this way but....you are not alone. I love what I have already read out here and there are good people that are very supportive. I'm glad to 'meet' you and looking forward to supporting each other.

B in TX

Hey, thanks for making this post. I've been meaning to make the same sort of introductory post as well, but my job and other responsibilities in life have me swamped.

I'm 25 this year. I have the same sort of problems making connections to other people too. I barely have a support network. It would be great if we could exchange experiences and success stories with each other since we seem to be going through the same things. I always find it helpful to just talk about whatever is on your mind just so you know that there's at least someone who's listening to you.

This website is a great support group! You'll meet some really caring people on here.

I know it sucks not having a support in place, this site can give you lots of support! Think twice before taking any meds for your situation though. Trust me

Yeah, I am currently in the process of finding a new therapist/psychiatrist. It really helps when you "mesh" well with one that your are matched with. Mine was a female, a little older than me, but not by much. Then, I got new insurance and she couldn't see me anymore. I was finally starting to feel better because I felt like she really cared. No one in my family understands how important it is to have a supportive, in it for the right reason therapist. I hope I can get back on meds and feel better soon!

Very weird and kind of silly that they are giving you meds that make you feel out of it. There are some very good new generation antidepressants that don't even make you sleepy. Go back to the doctor. Also you an feel quite insane and suicidal if you quit cold turkey. Been there, done that, never again!

Hi Brittney. I totally understand how you feel I'm 30yrs old & I suffer from anxiety and depression. I also don't have family & Friends who understand how I feel . My family does know I suffer from anxiety but once i tried to talk to them & they just got scared and concerned for me. Because of that i choose not to tell them when i feel bad because i hate to scare them. So i tend to suffer in silence.I have a friend who suffers from the same thing as I do but it's hard to run to her all the time because I feel like im bothering her even if she tells me otherwise. I've been told that the world is not out to get me. Yet I always feel like it is.So just know that you are not alone. Stay strong!

Hi everyone. I am new here (first response), and although we all are faced with our own challenges with being depressed I hope we can help each other out. I am 44 and hid my depression the best I could my whole life. I was diagnosed with being clinically depressed 10-1/2 years ago and have been on Welbutrin ever since. The doctor that prescribed the meds did only that, she had no sympathy so I was scared to really talk to her about anything as she was not a psychologist, she only prescribed meds. Because of a recent event with my marriage, I have been seeing a psychologist because the meds helped level out my mood, but did not really fix anything which led to major problems in my marriage (because of my behavior), and I am struggling to keep myself and my family together. My wife of 15 years (been together for 19) finally snapped and is in a state of apathy toward me. She is totally numb and it is tearing me apart. I sent her articles about depression to help her understand that it is in fact a real medical condition, she does not seem to accept it. I am not here for only support, but to see if I can offer any support for others. I have a great job, house, family, etc., but when you are depressed, even winning the lottery will not fix it. But again, we all have our own individual challenges. Feel free to reach out to me, I know how awful it is especially when there is nowhere to turn because people just do not understand how damaging it is to be in this state. It is not because we are weak or stupid. If someone can't reach something on the top shelf because they are short, or someone is dyslexic, or can't lift something that seems light to everyone else does not make them any less of a person. Does that make sense?

it is very dificult for the people around us who have not been through depreshion to understand it ...giving them information on it is good but often not enough I had to take my h in to see my phicatrist ...thank duly I had a good phicatrist .....he was able to explain to my h how he was helping me and how he was not helping me ...and explaining ..about me and my depreshion ..I took him a few tomes ...and things between us got much better .......so if you have close friends or family ...if they will go take them ..in with you ..talk to your doctor first ....so .....they know what you want out of that session ....