Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Frunkiss 01/02/2009

I haven't felt like this in i don't know how long. I was fine around the holidays and most of today. Then all of a sudden a depression came over me. I was seeing a girl. I liked her too. I thought she would a worked out. But she is too busy to ever see me. Every time i asked her when can i see her, she either said babysitting or hanging with here friends. It was either one or the other. I got sick of it. I understand the babysitting cause she needed the money. But she could of made time for me. Maybe not hang with her friends one time and see me. I just think she didn't wanna make it work. This always seems to happen to me. I seem to have no luck in anything i do. Relationships, jobs nothing. I have a job but there hasn't been any work in a month at least. I have no distractions or anything to do. I am what you call a negative person. I used to be a more positive person. Then my life turned to crap and became negative. I also used to believe in karma. I did good things expected good things to happen to me. But good things never seemed to happen to me.

deleted_user 01/02/2009

I know how you feel.

deleted_user 01/02/2009

Sorry that you are feeling so badly hon. Is it possible that you can become more active in looking for steady work. Maybe with a new job you will feel better about yourself and you will have a steady income coming it. How often does she set aside time for you and her? How long have you been dating?

Victorious 01/02/2009

a suggestion that comes into mind is "the secret" you can read the book or get the dvd.

http://thesecret.tv/

deleted_user 01/02/2009

I believe you can still be a positive person. You've had a run of bad luck and I'm sorry you're feeling so blue. You can turn this around though. Start thinking good, positive thoughts. Go for a walk, get outside, work out. Find stuff to keep you busy and just like you met this girl, you can meet another.

good luck to you and hugs

deleted_user 01/02/2009

i remember you.

everytime you post its like a mirror of me.
little off this time, but i understand what youre writing.

wishing you well.
=]

Frunkiss 01/02/2009

Like i said i have bad luck with jobs. i can't seem to ever find a job i like. It also takes me forever to find a job. I don't keep the job long usually. I have been looking for work longer than i have actually worked. Having depression makes it hard for me to keep a job. In December i have seen the girl a total of 2 hours. I have been seeing her 2 months. I haven't spoken to her in 6 days. I am mad at her and i don't know what to say to her. I don't know how to talk to her about spending more time with me. I know what the secret is, and i don't believe in it. Positive thinking doesn't work for, neither does walking.

deleted_user 01/02/2009

look for inventory work. helps with anxiety. you get a little bit of customer service sometimes, but its normally work alone or in a small group. different tasks, but normally the same thing. this way youre not grinding away at the same thing day after day like factory work or a machinist, but youre still in the back room.

some people start a relationship simply because they want to feel like theyre still wanted. they want the title, of being able to say theyre in a relationship and not single, more then what a relationship really means. she sounds like shes one of them, and just isnt ready.

Frunkiss 01/02/2009

i forgot to write that in my last post that i feel that i want to make this work more than her. i am willing to do whatever to make this relationship work. And she rather hang with her friends rather then see me. I feel i am doomed to be single and lonely forever. I have a bad job history because of my depression so jobs don't usually wanna hire me.

deleted_user 01/02/2009

i believe federal protection laws, dont require you to list your previous employment. if they ask if youve ever been fired, just say no. whether its true or not, its none of their business.

Frunkiss 01/02/2009

i think my loneliness has more to do with finding and keeping a girlfriend more than the job thing. i can always find a job somewhere. I am just sick of trying to make relationships work and i am the only one that is trying.

deleted_user 01/02/2009

I just move onto the next. its like a limited special. i dont know though... im no good with relationships. ive tried to keep it going though, and ive known women for quite a long while. nothing ever came out of it. i suggest you just move on.

deleted_user 01/02/2009

eventually you get use to the loneliness.

just keep trying. spread your reach and put yourself out there. if one fails, just move onto the next. thats why theres plenty out there.

deleted_user 01/02/2009

DS has a loneliness support group, maybe try there too.
I dont like the members there though... just my opinion.

http://dailystrength.org/c/Loneliness/support-group

LindaJean 01/02/2009

I agree with IDK - I would move on from this current girl. I also would get a job before another relationship. I think a prospective employer can ask you about your former employment but they can't ask anything more than where you worked and the dates of your employment. At last that was the law in the early 1990's - I'm not sure about now.

We usually feel more secure when we are taking care of ourselves and that usually means we are less needy. Less needy is more attractive than needy - you know? Good luck with this. Take care.

Frunkiss 01/02/2009

Well i texted her today said "we needed to talk" and she didn't text me back. Now i gotta find another girl. Should take me forever. I can't afford the site i found the past two girls, that never worked out. So now i am wondering if i should try a new dating site or keep with the same one.

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