Hey sweetie. I'm sorry you are having a rough go. I think you need to stand up for yourself. Don't let friends or family treat you like crap. You need to reevaluate your friendships and get rid of those who just bring you down. True friends inpire you to be a better person.

You're never going to please EVERYONE!! Remember that. It doesn't make you a bad person, it's just the way life is.

And no one can blame another for their own actions. She chose what to do, no one forced her hand in any way. I'm sorry that she's in a place where she can't take responsibility for herself, but that's not your job. You may need to be firm with her.

About being a bad friend: you prioritized who to help in what order, and that's your prerogative. Maybe you prioritized based on who asked first, or who needed help the most, it doesn't matter. You made the decisions, and you're a perfectly capable adult. Maybe that friend is lucky you responded to him or her at all! It sounds like you have a lot on your plate, and people should be more grateful for what you have to give. If they're not, maybe you shouldn't give so much to them.

Maybe that sounds harsh to you, but that's my attitude at the moment. The silly bull crap just can't be tolerated. We don't have time or energy for that.

((hugs))

Sorry you're feeling down. I hope things are better soon.
I miss my dad too. Father's Days is rough.

People are responsible for their own actions. Nothing they do is your fault. You need to stand up for yourself (in a healthy way). What they do to you is wrong. Know you are only doing the best you can and your best is good enough. If other people have a problem with it, then f*ck them.

Everyone is right you are not responsible for anyone's actions, but your own. You are a great person and don't let anyone convince you otherwise.

I still honor Fathers Day even though my dad has been gone 2 years now. Hard to believe.

Anyway, I think we all tend to beat ourselves up for no good reason. I've never really cared what other people thought or said about me but I did a great job beating myself up if things weren't perfect! I'm doing better with that but it took 43 years to get there :)

Hang in there B! We have you're back :)

Hey sweetie. Just wanted to add that you are a WONDERFUL friend to me and I am so blessed that you are my friend. I know Father's Day is hard for you , especially with all the ads and it coming this weekend. I'm sorry your mom is blaming you for HER actions. :((

know I love you and I am sending you comforting hugs.

(((((((((((((( HUGS)))))))))))))))

LMT

Im so sorry you mum is blaming you, she needs to take own responsibility for what she does! Hugs it must be
Hard for you xx

Thank you all for your lovely responses. I really appreciate it. I've been doing mostly okay in recent months, but right now I just feel shattered.

Blue, please don't let anyone on DS make you feel any negative thoughts. We are all here for the help & support. Including you. You are a great friend to all. You are very supportive & give to others when you yourself are hurting. Anyone that can call you friend is blessed. Spend your time with those that are able to lift YOU up. You deserve it. You can't just continually give. Right now you need to be on the receiving end.

I know this time of year is hard for you & I'm so sorry your mom is adding more stress. Please take care of yourself first!

Sorry you are feelings so down. That really sucks the people in your life make you feel like your not good enough. From what I have seen your are a wonderful person and really don't deserve to feel this way. Best wishes.

Oh sweety, I can relate to you so well and I am truly upset that you have to put up with someone that treats you in a way that you do NOT deserve. I have been there, I'm still there, and I am always available to talk if you need to. Please message me any time. As far as your dad goes, I lost my ex husband 2 years ago in March and it is still affecting my youngest son and all of the grandchildren. I hate all of the ads too because I too lost my dad about 3 years ago.
And as far as your never being good enough,, that is so far from the truth it's ridiculous! I think the world of you, and I want you to think the world of yourself too! Lots of gentle hugs. Gramybear