Now I feel worse... I'm shaking

of course if you were drinking any and everything you said to each other can be repeated...right? If not, then you would have something to be anxious about.
also, both of you are confortable and secure in your OWN relationships right? your fiance trusted you and was secure enough in your relationship to accept it for what it was: a drink...hopefully his wife is mature and is secure enough in their relationship....if not...what are you engaged/married for??

Yes I am secure and comfortable in my relationship and everything we said could be repeated. But why do I feel like I did something wrong?

Perhaps doing this 'triggered' old memories of a painful experience?

That sometimes happens even when we have done nothing wrong. You may have unresolved past issues to heal.

I hope you soon feel better.

:-) Patricia

It is always hard to work out the 'friends of the other gender' thing, ESPECIALLY when you are newly married or engaged. One simple trick is to always make sure that it is never just 2 of you. Invite friends from work to make the group larger, avoid intimate locations.

It gets easier the longer you have been married/engaged. Oh one more thing you can do is to let your fiance know about stuff like this ahead of time, and invite him to be with you.

idk maybe your feelings got alil confused with those drinks last nite. was he attractive and did you feel a bit turned on by his presence, maybe you are suppressing this and it scared you.
its normal I believe to have feelings of attraction for other ppl even tho we are engaged/married. The important thing is to acknowledge those feelings and know that we have put this relationship in its place where it should be: we're just friends.

I only had one drink and I am not attracted to this guy at all. Thing is he kind made some innappropriate comments to me about how he found me attractive and it made me very uncomfortable. I don't really ever want to hang out with him again. I just don't want this one time occurence to ruin my relationship with my fiance. I only have eyes for him

I really would never be attracted to this guy. I can see how it looked bad though, again I just hope this doesn't ruin things w/ my significant other.

In your mind you know it won't Brook, then it won't
but it was probably the inappropriateness of his comments, suggestive maybe? and it did scare you cause your feelings about his comments made you afraid howit would look. if he had not made this inaaproriate statements then you would not been so anxious about how this would even look.
sorry, I think your right. It will be ok, just nomore drinks with this guy. sounds like maybe he is lookin for a quickie and trying to feel you out.
just my opinion, Brook.

Yeah you're right... no more drinks with this guy... it wasn't even that fun and our friendship is from a long time ago and things are different now, and he made me uncomfortable and everything so itsjust not worth it. i'd rather be with my guy.

its ok Brook, maybe this happened for a reason, maybe this just reinforced your thoughts, feelings and love for your fiance? I've had that happen before too, Im glad it wasn't too late for me either. :)

Yes, not only did it reinforce my feelings for him but it also made me realize that maybe now it is not appropriate to have drinks alone with the opposite sex.

yea not even your boss, especially if its the opposite sex, they are your boss but even bosses want quickies sometimes too.