Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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BrooklynnMB 04/13/2014

Today is my ex fiance's birthday. I feel awful. A year ago today we were together and I was throwing him a very nice party and I gave him a scrapbook of our lives together with a very romantic letter. 3 months later I broke up with him. It was a mistake. I know it was a mistake and I've been feeling awful for months now. I was making progress but today I feel like I took 10 steps back. I used to be his entire life and today his is birthday and I am not even a part of it. I am feeling so sad. I can't stop crying and the pain is becoming unbearable. I don't know what to do. All I can seem to do is sit here and cry.

gramybear 04/13/2014

And what exactly is sitting there crying helping? Did you call him to wish him a happy birthday and see if you are invited to his party?. Or are you just assuming he should know what you are going through.? You said you were his whole world. Are you still or has he moved on? If he has, you have to move on as well before it ruins you. What exactly are you feeling awful about? Is it the fact that YOU left him, or now that you have, he has moved on? It sounds like you are fighting too hard to try and get your relationship back. I still don't know if he has moved on so therefore, it's hard to help without knowing where his heart is. I know where yours is. Do you have abandonment issues? Is that why you broke up with him? The only thing I can see happening is sitting down and talking this all out, from beginning to end. Telling each other the truth, and if it isn't going to work out, then move on before your heart gets crushed anymore then it is. It sounds like you have been trying to communicate with him and to work out your problems, but it sounds by your post, that it's become one sided.

Here is a quote for you honey that I think is relative/
1/ Healing doesn't mean the damage never existed
it means the damage no longer controls your life.
Hugs GB

hopefullyannon 04/13/2014

and if gramybear's advice doesnt work for you, then i would suggest finding something to keep yourself busy today... something that takes a lot of thought/concentration, or even as simple as taking a walk/ride somewhere, will help keep your mind off of it

my approach doesnt actually FIX anything, i know, but it'll keep you from sitting there and crying all day, at the very least

good luck, i hope your day gets better *hugs*

mollgirl 04/13/2014

I hope you feel better. I like to read or play games on the computer. Yesterday I walked to the beach. I try to do things to take my mind of the bad thoughts and depression. Hugs.

deleted_user 04/13/2014

I love the quote! My only thought is sometimes we have to keep fighting to keep things in the past from controlling our lives . But that fight is worth it

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