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Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Jess1995x 04/09/2017

Its just gone 3am here and I have been up since 1am feeling poorly.

I have an undiagnosed illness which makes my stomach really bad. And tonight I am having a massive flare up. I hate being ill, its one of my worst fears. I am 21 years old and suffering so badly, I can't go on holiday because I am scared of having a flare when away. I don't work because of it, I constantly cancel plans or reschedule because I am poorly.

I have a wedding to attend a week on Friday and I have booked a B&B for the night and now I am worried I won't be able to make it because I am poorly.

I see all my friends doing what all 21year olds should be doing and it really gets me down because I have gotten no where in my life. I want to live a life like them. Why am I ill?!

I feel like a burden to my partner. He could do so much better than me! He doesnt do stuff because I am poorly,i love him to bits but hate putting all this onto him. I want to be the best i can be for him but i am poorly all the time and it stops me from being able to :(

I just feel so drained physically and mentally

misleadingsmile 04/09/2017

Can I ask what it feels like when your stomach "flares up"?

Jess1995x 04/09/2017

I get severe stomach cramping above my belly button, loose stools, feels like I need the loo all the time

muskrattiger 04/09/2017

have you been to doctors to be digonosed ..........have you tried to take probiotics ...but at a high dose ...I have IBS and it is in my stomic and above my belly button ...I get the cramping I also get very upset stomic ks ....and feel like I need to go to the bathroom and often times can't ..but I know others that go more often ....when I take the probiotics ....it realy helps me I couldent do with out them .......just a thought ....

allpal 04/09/2017

Oh man I am so sorry! I wish I could help. Do you have medication, or have seen a doctor? That might help. And maybe tell your partner that so you feel less bad. That's what I would do

Jess1995x 04/09/2017

Im under gastro at the hospital and a dietician but they cant find any problems, they have said ibs but i am losing all my weight with it, i am down to 42kg :( i will try probiotics. Only medication they have given me is buscopan which helps at times but not during big flares :(
My partner knows i feel this way and does his best to reassure me that he doesnt mind but it still plays on my mind

TooMuch 04/09/2017

i'm so sorry. :( i have a friend who deals with stomach issues. probiotics have helped her a little bit. that is so rough to deal with. i know what you mean about feeling a burden but try to push those thoughts away. they simply don't reflect reality. hugs.

Jess1995x 04/09/2017

Thank you for your kind words TooMuch it means a lot.... its such a horrible thing to deal with... its a vicious circle with me,becausr of my fear of being ill that sets off my anxiety causing my stomach to be worse, i am playing games on my tablet to distract myself at the moment... so sorry to hear your friend suffers from stomach issues... x

TooMuch 04/09/2017

you sound just like her, with the anxiety setting off the stomach and the stomach setting off the anxiety. i am so sorry the both of you have to deal with it! just try to trust and believe in the people who love you. you are by no means any kind of burden. <3

Jess1995x 04/09/2017

Thank you, it seems so silly to be so down and upset by all this when people go through far worse but its hard... has your friend got a diagnosis? Xx

misleadingsmile 04/09/2017

Have any of your doctors talked to you about methotrexate? It helps with autoimmune conditions (including those in the bowels)...might be worth it to give it a shot

Jess1995x 04/10/2017

No they haven't mentioned any medication except buscopan, I may asl them if I can give that a try

misleadingsmile 04/10/2017

It's the first line treatment (before biological agents) for autoimmune conditions, such as Crohns, IBS, IBSD, etc.

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