Depression Support Group
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My Dear Friends,
While still married at the time to my husband, he grew to become
an alcoholic. He constantly stayed gone from my daughter and I.
After him never wanting to receive any help, or just not wanting
to be around, I finally had enough of this behavior. So, my
daughter and I chose to leave him, after he brought this woman
home and said, that she was going to stay there in our house
tonight.
Time went by, so I divorced him. He agreed to pay Child/Spousal
Support, and I would allow him to keep the house.
This man, has nothing to do with his 11yr. old daughter!
He continues to run from paying any Support to my daughter
and I. I'm just so greatful to have parents that care about my
daughter and I. After everything, my daughter and I have been
left with nothing, but the love we have for each other!
I'm just so angry about this........, because how can he go to
bed at night, and not even care about his own children!
My daughter seems to be doing pretty good, I just hurt so
much for her and how her Father seems to have just spit her
out!
BRAVE(Kim)
While still married at the time to my husband, he grew to become
an alcoholic. He constantly stayed gone from my daughter and I.
After him never wanting to receive any help, or just not wanting
to be around, I finally had enough of this behavior. So, my
daughter and I chose to leave him, after he brought this woman
home and said, that she was going to stay there in our house
tonight.
Time went by, so I divorced him. He agreed to pay Child/Spousal
Support, and I would allow him to keep the house.
This man, has nothing to do with his 11yr. old daughter!
He continues to run from paying any Support to my daughter
and I. I'm just so greatful to have parents that care about my
daughter and I. After everything, my daughter and I have been
left with nothing, but the love we have for each other!
I'm just so angry about this........, because how can he go to
bed at night, and not even care about his own children!
My daughter seems to be doing pretty good, I just hurt so
much for her and how her Father seems to have just spit her
out!
BRAVE(Kim)
With respect to your daughter's father not being in contact with her ... his loss, plain and simple.
All you can do is to let her know how wonderful and special she is (which I'm sure you are doing), and to reiterate over and over again that her father not being in her life is NOT HER FAULT.
I don't know why some parents would turn their back on their children. Perhaps they're missing what it is to nurture? I'd say the booze probably plays a big role in your daughter's father's case. What was his childhood like growing up? Is he repeating old patterns from his own childhood?
There may well come a time when he wants to see her, and by then it may be too late depending upon what her feelings are.
Essentially, it his his loss.
Congrats to you for being there for your daughter and yourself!
I can understand that you feel bad about him not being around, but that's a decision that HE made, not you. Children aren't dumb by any means, they see, they hear and they figure out what's going on. I think you'd be better off concentrating on being a supportive mum to your girl rather than focusing on what the ex-hubby is not doing, after all, you guys lead separate lives now, make the most of it cos you'll get all the joys of watching your daughter blossom into a young adult and that's awesome xxxx