hun it gets better... wait till ur picking up after seven children assorted horses and dogs....and cATS.... life is buuuteeefull and suks at the same time.......

now where did I put that beer...oh speaking of beer. Beer is a hybrid cross of a bear and a deer...hay seen it on a shirt...must B true.....

luk finding places for all ur stuff....

Well from my personal experience on being overwhelmed with a mess of a house, because Im a slob..LOL. I have learned to make it fun. Or have some friends help. So I would put on some music, have an energy drink or whatever, and make a list. You have to have a strategy. So think of where to start. Then have at it. Music and friends do help A LOT..lol.

So good luck and dont get bummed out, but once you are done, you shall enjoy the fruits of your labor! From then on in, just keep it up, and there should be no more dilemmas after that!

I can relate to this very much. I am getting overwhelmed too. I am finding it hard to keep up with things. I do have physical problems due to arthritis and fibromyalgia and that is partly it but I don't have the energy.

I try and do a little bit each day.

Instead of doing a one or two hour blitz once a week. . I would do a little each day but it's getting hard lately as I have been fatigued and I also am in physical therapy and it's like I just can't do it all.

If the whole house is overwhelming it's advised to concentrate on one room at a time. That's what I read and what people say. :)

Use commercial breaks on tv as an alarm to get up and do something. It's surprising what job can be done in the time of commercials. One of the following
Load up or unload the dryer of clothes
Put dishes away
Throw away items into recycle bin.
Clean a bathroom sink
Wipe a counter down
Go through the pile of mail

My problem is organization and having homes for things. That is very true. And my closet is a mess too but towels do go in there, so I'm half organized and Every time I open the door there's junk and boxes in there and then my shelf of folded towels. Lol

I often make piles. I just stack things up in a pile on the end of the counter and clean around it. It's sad really:( but it's better than nothing.
That's not my advice by the way. Lol. I'm just saying what happens because I'm too tired and hurt to do things.

I think I have too much stuff. I periodically go through items and donate or throw away but I still think I have too much.
Maybe that is something you can do too if you feel you have too much clutter.
Downsize, do some throwing away and donating to free up space.

I think I need more storage or better way to use my space. I need shelves and cubby holes too. Husband is so busy working. Doesn't have a lot of time to do things.

I need help myself so I don't think I'm much help but I understand and I encourage you to not give up.

If you give up it's just going to back fire and be even more of a problem.

A little bit at a time is the best way.

And I like the idea of rewarding yourself.
Maybe write a list of the jobs that need doing and if you have completed them by the end of the month then include that in your reward system too.

Good luck and don't give up. I won't either.

I'm not very good at cleaning either. I feel like a bum. I pick up after myself and make the bed and do the laundry stuff like that but I don't dust or sweep the floors. I do know how you feel. My husband is retired and he does most of the house work. Of course he makes the most mess too.

I had to totally deck utter my home to make it manageable for me. I don't have nick knacks or anything I don't use.....in other wards....if I haven't used it in a year it goes to the goodwill.
This doesn't work for everyone but if you can its wonderful because without all the clutter it's easier to clean and even when the house is messed up it doesn't look as bad.
Good luck

Naturegirl gave you some pretty good advice. I do use a lot of the ideas she has mentioned. Cleaning during commercials is something I do when my motivation is really low. It seems to work for me too.

I also try to do one room at a time. Otherwise you might start a lot of different jobs and finish none. Decluttering is very helpful. It's shocking how much crap we can accumulate. Good luck

I feel the same way. I recently just started back to work and I'm having a hard time balancing work and home. I just don't think I should have to come home and clean up everyones mess after working all day. I have 6 kids and a husband I feel like I shouldn't feel this overwhelmed about things that should be already done.

:o( I can see why this would become overwhelming. With it all in the way right now it seems that smaller goals you can achieve every day is a good way to start. It's also a way to keep it maintained after you can get it cleared. I do have some physical problems that interfere with massive cleaning so I do maintenance cleaning and only large cleaning when I feel I've saved enough strength and energy...on bad days I just try to achieve some small things.

Hugs!

@kmfo6
Hmmmm yeah I don't think you should have to come home to that either.
Maybe it will take time for everyone adjust to the fact you are working now and things are going to be different
I don't know how old your kids are but even little ones can pick up.
my 2 yr old grandson will pick up his things. i have to make it a game.

If the kids all pitched in and did something each it will certainly take the load off of you. They need to understand it's a family duty to keep the home tidy not a mommy or a wife thing.
I hope perhaps you can sit and talk with family about it and your husband will listen and be on your side. I do hope so. Maybe come up with a chore plan/chart with their designated job.
If they aren't on board with it.
Then go on strike! Don't clean up after them. And withhold privileges such as tv and phone use.
6 kids. Wow. You deserve a medal and a hug :)

I am the worst with keeping up house. It creates a lot of stress around the house. I wish I was better and I'm trying to be but it's so hard for me. I'm trying to declutter small sections of the house at a time to make it a little easier.

naturegirl65 I was not able to send u a hug but I wanted to send u one anyway!
I am deff going to add things I want to accomplish along with 2 hours a day for more structure.
I am trying to go room to room but it also gets tiring being in the same area. Hey eventhough ur house is
a little unorganized like your closet, its great that you are still making the effort to keep it clean!

Aww thanks for the hug.

Yeah I am not so hard on myself as I use to and I give myself credit for what I do achieve.

Give yourself credit for whatever you do get done. That's a good thing to focus on. All what you achieve rather than what you haven't.

High five to us both is what I say. Lol

thank u megk05 and yes it is hard but the end result shoulld be worth it. I just hope I make it tot hat result