Reassess your goals to see if they are realistic, and whether you have capacity and ability to achieve them. Reassess your career choice to make certain you are working in a field that interests you, instead of a career that others perceive that you should be pursuing in. Go to counseling if you have questions to ask, issues needing advice to resolve. Sometimes counseling that is off the mark makes you more depressed. The grand finale: perhaps you can check in with your doctor for a prescription of anti-depressant(s) - it seems that you really need them.

You are not alone Falcon, I feel exactly the same way and have been dealing with that kind of emptiness for two years. It's horrible, and I totally empathize with astounding compassion for anyone else who suffers from this devastating consistent lack of love, human connections, acceptance, and hope. I think I do what you do everyday, just keep going through the motions in a wish (not belief) that something positive might happen to change this. What else can a person do?

I"m reminded of a Rocky Balboa quote: "It's not about how hard you can hit. It's about how hard you can get hit, and keep moving forward."

You have my best Falcon, I'll have good thoughts for you.

Thank you for sharing. I know that empty, lost, ready to give up feeling. Have you considered your depression is chemical? Have you been to a doctor to check about going on medication? I know for me I needed both medication and counseling. Clinical depression is where the depressed symptoms last more than two weeks and it is a chemical imbalance in the brain. Often it takes medication to help get balanced. Positive self-talk is also essential to feel better. Even when you don't feel like it . I do a lot of positive self talk when I am struggling. Here are a few techniques that work for me.

1) The 557 breathing technique is take 5 deep breaths in while thinking good thoughts about yourself like I matter, I am special, I am strong and then hold the breaths for the count of 7 focusing on those words about yourself, then let out the breath slowly for 5 seconds letting go of any anxious, self-defeating, unhealthy thoughts. I do this one to three times a sitting.

2)The gratitude journal is writing down something good every morning and night something that went well in the day, or something I appreciate about myself. Taking our focus off of the anxiety and depression and focusing on positive uplifting things really helps. What you think is what you believe. So thinking uplifting things you believe those things but the reverse is true - thinking negative self-defeating things, you will believe those.

3) Emotional Freedom Tapping - Look up the actual pressure points that you use, but you tap on those points while you repeat positive uplifting things to yourself.


Please consider not stopping counseling or look into another counselor. It took me awhile to find the right counselor that could help me work through my struggles.

I will be praying for you. Feel free to pm me if you'd like to chat. Hugs and God Bless

Sorry you are feeling that way. I feel that way too. The only thing I do that sort of makes me feel a little better is brisk walking outside. It's temporary but it sort of gives me a small feeling of connection with my body and with nature. caring2018 those are good tips and techniques. thank you.

How are you doing? I have been praying for you. Hugs

Hey Caring2018,
I thank you for your prayers and I truly do feel better. Depressions and anxiety linger every now and then, but I quickly have to remind myself that God is with me. I often have fears of being unlovable and ending up being alone forever, then I turn to God. I look back at all the coincidences that have placed me here and remember that God created me and there’s no way that He could have ever made a mistake. My journey isn’t one of failure but one to recognize that God only tests those with that which they are strong enough to endure but also those He loves more. Due to my struggling, I am sure that God just wants me to be closer and in doing so I am slowly learning to fight those monsters in my head and to love myself more. Its still a work in progress but I appreciate the help!

I can totally relate! I am out of point in life I’m about ready to retire, And now I have two of my grandchildren 15 and 12. I go to work I come home I take kids places and then repeat the next day. Very frustrating feeling. I totally know your feelings

Thank you Falcon05 for your update. I love how you put it that this is a journey and God only makes us stronger from it. Also this site is so encouraging and glad you reached out and shared. Know we can always pm to encourage each other too. Hugs and Blessing