Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Noxx 04/19/2013

I'm just wondering if anyone else has ever felt like they weren't enough. One of the cats peed on the floor again today...or yesterday or whenever, and I just kind of lost it. (don't worry the cats are fine. I took a very long walk.) Emotionally, I mean. it seems like the harder I try, the more they want, the more stupid crap keeps happening, and I just don't feel like I am enough...good enough, attentive enough, enough of a wife, enough (good enough) a pet owner, enough of a person, a good person. Been having mega panic attacks over this stuff and I feel like i'm going out of my gourd.
Help...please?

solitudeisnear 04/19/2013

I have these stresses and feelings all the time. I never well sometimes never feel good enough. Its hard when things are not going your way and things seem to keep happening. Its not always going to be this way. I often feel the stressed of expectations from others to society to something as simple as feeding my cat and I get overwhelmed with it all. Your not alone. I hope you feel less stressed soon and find some comfort.

Julie111 04/19/2013

Yes that is exactly where I am at the moment.
No matter how much I do or how hard I try or how good I am
Nothing is ever good enough.

I have to put my cats to sleep sometime in the next two weeks. So I definatley feel like if only I could do more or better.
Daughter is having issues I think I wasn't a good enough mom.
THe list goes on and on and on.

I to have been doing alot of panicking.
You're not alone in how you feel. Maybe you can take some comfort in the fact that you are not alone.

Noxx 04/19/2013

thank you, My husband made a good point, that its not really about the cats and whether they are cared for well enough, that its really about me and the impossible standards I hold myself to. every quirk, every twitch or misstep seems to reflect to me my inadequacy. I just don't know how to stop this rollercoaster. I feel trapped on it.

DepressedRecluse 04/19/2013

YEAH!...that's how I feel too! ...exactly....

sorry I got nothing else cause I just ain't good anymore!

mycroftt 04/20/2013

I have three cats ,, two took to the catbox immediately,, one didn't ,,and I went into emergency mode,,,, I called a friend who knew about this stuff,, it was suggested that if the cat does this continuously,, to place he/she in a very confined space with just water and bring food in at feeding time ,,, do this till the cat begins to use the cat box,, and then it is solved,,, It worked but I have to keep up with the box or the cat will go wherever,,,,, It is not worth getting stressed over,,

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