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alison20806
alison20806

I can't describe my low. I have no motivation to get up, do my job, engage with my spouse, etc. I have no desire to be intimate. I don't feel worthy and I don't live up to his expectations. I feel like an awful wife. I work from home now, daily. The stress and pressure is still on but throw on top of that covid and stress with my kids. I feel robbed of certain years of their lives that should be fun and enjoyable. They aren't getting those either and I can only hope it won't mentally scar them. I feel trapped, unloved, unappreciated, and just downright shitty. 

maria718
maria718
I'm at my lowest point too, and so are many others. And the kids---I live in NYC, and a lot of parents are putting their kids in private schools as they are afraid that their kids will be mentally scarred too with all remote learning here. I feel the most for the kids.
No motivation, no happy times, no nothing, sure sounds familiar. We're all going to be scarred.
The only thing that's keeping my sanity is getting outside. I've always been a little bit of a loner, so I enjoy going to a new neighborhood by myself, checking out the restaurants (not eating though) or the stores or the old homes. Maybe to keep your sanity, and be happier in front of your kids and husband, you should remove yourself from your home once in a while, escape it. Take an exercise walk, do some shopping, or take the kids somewhere new. Just get out for a bit. Just an idea, maybe that would help.
Remiah
Remiah
alison, I'm turning into a person I'm not quite able to respect and I don't like it either. I feel, as with many others, that fear of the unknown is a terror to maintaining control of values, self-respect, and integrity. Good thing that I'm not in denial or living by illusion. I do fight to find quality time with my adult children, which point is the greater power in me to control is with my love and appreciation for family.

I'd imagine that your husband and kids have scary tales to share with you as well. And much of what you fret is what's common with all peoples of the world. The pandemic has altered the course of the whole wide world. All of us are afraid at the same time. I'm praying for us all to feel sane again. We will never take life for granted again. I pray deeply to be present in my life. I hope the same prayer for you today.

Best of all hugs to you! You may just start living again any day now.
destiny1967
destiny1967
I know exactly how you feel. All I can offer is my understanding. I know how shitty that feels. Love to you! You are worth it!!!!!
destiny1967
destiny1967
Please feel free to vent to me!!!!!!
Prycejosh1987
Prycejosh1987
Your desire to not be intimate stems from your self esteem and personal issues. You need to be intimate more often, and confide in your husband. You are married its beautiful and a big blessing to have a partner that married you. Take advantage of that. You are blessed in all areas of your life, but you are a reason why you could lose everything. Confide in your husband, See a therapist if you need to but hang on to what you have.
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