I think i know what you're going through. This year seems to have been the year where people have let me down left and right. It is a sobering truth that people will constantly say, "I'm here if you need me, anytime." but very few of the people who say that will actually be there if you need them. You keep being you. you are a good good person, don't let anything or anyone, especially those who could care less about you, change you. be very discerning about who you place your faith and trust in. I know, i struggle with this all the time!

You are correct, being a good person never gives you a guarantee that people will be there for you or that life will go smoothly. If you're only being a good person with the expectation that there is a payoff of goodness, then I'm afraid you will be disappointed a good deal of the time. The idea of being a good person is just because its the better path to follow, as opposed to being a bad person.

And you should never rely on others to make your journey through life easier or a smoother journey or a more productive journey. Its great if that's the case, but the expectation should be that you are the one who gets you through life and if people help that's awesome! But learning early on to rely on yourself and not others is generally the better path to take, that way your less disappointed if things don't go quite the way you expected.....it tends to be easier to forgive ourselves.

Take care,
kat

So true, Kat. One lesson I've learnt through my life's journey is to always rely on myself first and not on others. That way I don't expect anything from others and don't get disappointed. This is the advise I tried to give a family member who was complaining to me about a list of people (including her daughter and son-in-law) that they did not help her and were not there for her. I said very gently that she should try and do as much as possible herself so that she doesn't have to call on people for every single thing (which she tends to do and I think people get a bit fed up). But she really took offense to that when none was meant. It was just a little helpful comment in passing during a conversation about the issue in my attempt to provide her with a little comfort. Nevertheless, I hope she will take heed of the advise.

Patalice, unfortunately we can't please everyone all the time right? The other reason I like to rely on Me before I reach out to others, is, it feels pretty darn good when you accomplish things on your own without having to bother others. Small accomplishments like that tend to make the day a bit brighter.