Constantly. Over and over. And I worry my past I can't change or control will make things happen in the future I can't really control either. It's horrible. Living in the present would make it all so much easier. If you're able to, I hope you write me and tell ME how! :)

Yep. It's what keeps me up at night :(

HUGS

Mona, thank you so much for posting this. I needed to be reminded of it. I was just telling myself today that I MUST stop obsessing about the past. Life only goes in one direction, which is forward, and if you want to go forward, you must put the car in Drive, not Reverse.

I have been putting my mind in Reverse way too much lately. The past is the past. What's done is done. Move on.

thants my problem.. I think thats what causes me to stress so much is cause I dwell on the past way to much, I think about everything i've done instead of focusing on what i need to do.

Living in the moment is what Mindfulness practice and many CBT therapies center around. It is hard to let go of the past so it doesn't influence things we do now....unconstructive or negative things, or worrying about how they will affect your future. The focus is all on the HERE and NOW and taking what you can from the present moment to enjoy your life and make it work for you. Best of luck to you in making that happen!

I try really hard to stay present. Especially when depressed. When depressed, if we look to the future, we will see all kinds of green monsters. Only when depressed. Otherwise, we look to the future and see all things possible.

There is a saying that if you look to the past, you see regret.....Look to the future and you find worry. So I try and stay in the day.

I have had struggled with depression for a number of years. If I were to look for a lesson I have learned, it is that I cannot control the things I thought I could. Like the future !!!!!!!!!

All the time!!!! You are describing my life!!!! In fact, today I was actually doing better than usual and then something happened and I just spiraled back to the past and in to the future with full forced anxiety and the whole works. Geesh! I got my head above water for a little while and then SLAM! back down again. Trying to pull myself back out again....wish me luck!

I think many of us do, unfortunately. It prevents us from enjoying our present life. We have no control over the past. I read in one of my self help books that depression is feeling bad about the past, and anxiety is all the worry of the future. If we could just live in the present, we might be rid of these disorders??? That's when I got the book"The Power of Now" Great read about living in the present!!!!

live in the moment, thanks fo the reminder, I stress about the future way more than I enjoy the present, what a dumb ass

effin! stop with the self-insulting!

ha, I've been told perennial, thanks sweety, I do sometimes wonder why I am so harsh on me. First time I've noticed I do it all the time though. I will learn from this, watch out, what if you've just created a monster lol

so me and thanks to you all

Yes even though I KNOW it does'nt help I can't help myself! I think it is just a normal part of what our cognitive senses tell us to do! Now if I wallow in self-pity or loathing then it becomes a problem!

MonaP
I am my very own time machine; so much that the present seems so insignificant. Folks say: live in the moment - what the HELL does that mean - I'll say to myself...
The present is all that matters; it is the only thing you have control over. What you do can NOW can help impact the future you would like but don't invest too much time about the future - it will take care of itself. The past is something that is a closed chapter, locked away for eternity so it's really irrelavent. I can't seem to put this advice to practice but hopefully you can. Then hopefully you'll come back and provide more insight to those of us who still struggle with this basic concept...

that is me completly.. or I will think bad things are going to happen to the ones I love...

One day at a time........one hour at a time.............one minute at a time...

sending positive thoughts and mojo your way..